Do "looks" matter to you?

It is kind of hard to say looks don't matter at all, And anyone who does say that.. Is probably lieing to them selves cause they wouldn't date someone who looked like a walrus. I've been overweight all my life and as a result no one has ever given me a chance in a relationship. So I view that yes, Looks do matter alot. If you don't look like your healthy or take good care of yourself even if you are the sweetest girl/guy on the earth people will not want to be with you mainly because it is hard to get past the looks department.

I have to disagree with that a bit, Stella. A while back (many many years...), I had a first met up with someone I met online. She was big, but we had a connection. Ultimately it ended, not because of her, but because her mother was psychotic. Pulling a gun on your daughters boyfriend because you are going through oxycoton (sp?) Withdrawal is kind if a deal breaker... But her weight had nothing to do with anything relationship wise. On the flip side, had I not gotten to know her before first meeting up, I couldn't tell you if I would have, to be honest.

I've been most of my life lonely due to health and mental problems. I was most of the time sick, didn't make many friends at school at that time and when i did came, no one would talk to me. It felt like i was a stranger to them. I would've done anything to have a GF at time NO MATTER the appearance! To make things short. When you have nothing you would be glad with anything even a walrus ^_^.

Calling people a walrus is kind of harsh, especially since were all outcasts for being otaku in the first place. Doubling that with being called fat of "a walrus"has for to be really hurtful to some people.

I ... just everything canteventalkaboutrealshitthere ... that mouthful, jfc dude why did you even choos- nvm That was some real talk and I can really identify that in more ways than one. For me, looks do in fact play a part but only so much as first impressions do for any relationship. Whether or not we eye each other from across the room, when we meet with direct eye contact, a handshake for a greeting, a smile, a hello - it all just plays out on how you are and carry yourself. Like, with looks I can a) Identify who you are in a crowd of people, b) look and think how nice you look today but as for what you do with yourself directly, like wear your hair a certain style, smile when you speak with me and not just a regular smile but with your eyes too - your personality starts to show. YOU begin to bring yourself out and that's when the whole 'physical' thing starts to be less important. So yeah, "looks" matter. But more or less as a greeting. As looks appeal to a more physical attraction in a shallow sexual way. Afterwards, attraction will start to show through how 'you' are as a person. Those features you had once identified with, like their eyes, smile, hands, voice and figure will begin to glow even more in a different way and that's because it becomes familiar and you grow an attachment to them. You start to like them and perhaps, even love them. That's a different matter altogether, though. That's my two cents.

Outcast noun 1. a person who has been rejected by society or a social group. If you like to argue the fact that we are not the norm in society, please feel free to do so. You will lose. We, as otaku, are not accepted in the social norm, therefore we are outcasted in a sense to our own little clique. Besides at a con, walk around as a true otaku. For one day. By the way, If you need the definition of otaku, since you didn't know what outcast meant. . Otaku noun 1. (in Japan) a young person who is obsessed with computers or particular aspects of popular culture to the detriment of their social skills. Bottom line: calling somebody a walrus is insulting. Saying that we are outcasts it's a fact. Your move.

I agree with the "true otaku" part, as far as what normal is, It's what is socially accepted. It differs from area too area, but America as a whole is still reluctant to take us seriously. If I really have to explain further why, then you are either just being ignorant or looking to argue for the sake of arguing.

Looks do matter to a certain degree. But you have to realize that everyone has their own preferences. So because someone is fat, that does not mean they are unattractive. There's lots of people who are attracted to big girls/guys. Someone you might think is beautiful may be ugly to someone else. Point is, looks matter but once you get to know someone and you like them for the person they are, you can't help but to find everything about them to be beautiful. For example, If I'm talking to a guy with a scar on his face and through our conversations I feel a connection with him, I eventually fall for him and think that his scar is hot and it just makes him special. That's why it's good to get to know someone first before you decide if they're boyfriend/girlfriend material because for all you know they can be completely perfect for you. Same thing with major age differences. We're all people and we're all different. But that's just what makes us all beautiful and if you can find someone that can see that beauty then they're a keeper.