What Do You Look For?

I think looks and how you present yourself do matter no matter what anyone says since it's the first thing that people physically observe, but it's not the most important factor. But anyone's natural look can be a turn-off if they don't groom theirselves and look and live like a slob. In other words, it's not what you have naturally that people don't like, it's how you present it. But who knows, I've seen in some cases the opposite work a bit too... I don't look for desperation, but one thing I like seeing overall is someone who is willing to be adventurous and as outspoken, who is willing to live out of their shell, but not out of control (which is why I like conventions alot, being able to experience a weekend of people acting out how they want to out of fun and interest and not pride). Honestly, the vague answer of personality is there, but to find that specific kind of personality that you like is like a needle in a haystack. You can say what you want to find, but finding it is the hard part. I hope my input helps, but I'm in the same boat as far as looking for what I'm looking for.

@Kuroneko-Chan Wow you sound soo perfect haha @Mashiro talk about being straight up and honest, lets face it most people wouldnt just say something like that straight up lol

I'd like to find someone who has similar interests if possible. I'm a gamer more than an otaku these days, but any sort of geeky like interests is fine with me. Just someone who can appreciate (or at a minimum tolerate) that. Problem is most women my age don't want to date a gamer like myself. Even on this site for example, my problem is compounded by the fact most of the girls who do join are well under 25 and really under the age range of what I'd be comfortable with dating since I'm 33. I won't lie though and say looks don't play some role in it too. I don't need to date a super model or a complete twig. I'm 5'8 and 185 lbs so I'm not exactly super thin myself. A girl who has some curves and is carrying a bit of extra weight isn't a bad thing imo. I'll be the first to admit it's hard to be in a relationship with someone you're not attracted too though and I'll admit I'd have a hard time dating a girl who weighed more than I do.

I love this topic in so many levels. But i want a girl that i can challenge mentally, emotionally, and physically a girl that i can do romantic stuff to just to cuddle to let her know how much i love her and how much i appropriate her to make passionate love to her to let her know that her body is a temple and i'll please it in anyway she want me to. A girl that i can come how to and rub her feet and run that hot bath water for her thats my opinion here.

No idea. I suppose the generic he likes/tolerates similar interests, taller than me, that I can get along with, etc stuff like that. But mainly I think it's really down to chemistry. Whatever sets off, ( is that the right term? Sounds weird, triggers?) chemistry for me. Which I have no idea what does but there you go. :/

I agree its hard to find the right guy or girl,that is like your musical soulmate.Similar interest,and other things.Like personality wise,I like guys with honest,sense of humor,and caring.Who would love you for who you are in the inside not the outside.Also can treat you with respect and are not liars.

Dont really care about a guys looks. I want someone who has the same interests as me and accepts me for who I am. Thats basiclly it. Oh and being an otaku is a MUST. CX