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What would you do if you fell for someone..someone who could never fall for you back?

calmriver
To tell you the truth i've had this experiance first hand. I was this girls friend for 4-5 years through enternet. she lived in canada and I live in the U.S. we both talked alot and we she told she liked me and I liked her alot we talked about alooooot of stuff. One day she found another guy and told ne she wanted some where she lived and didn't want along distance relationship I told she can do what ever she wanted even though I loved her alot. I wanted to be with her and wanted her to be my girlfriend and to tell the truth wanted them to break up so I have a chance, but it wasn't ment she found another guy why we fell off the earth we didn't talk much only here and there. The best thing is to move on and try to find somebody else because you'll only get hurt more...
marche100
Having personal experience with this as well, I agree. Nine times out of ten, if you chase someone who doesn't love you back, you are in for a long ride that'll probably land you in a world of hurt. It might be difficult to let the person go if you really love them, but you gotta dig deep and let them go. Otherwise, you're not only setting yourself up for heartbreak, but you're wasting your time chasing a fantasy when you could be looking for someone who *will* love you. Not that it would always end poorly, but you have to ask yourself if the pain and regret you might face are really worth it. And I don't think it is. So I'd just move on, painful as that may also be.
utaghoul1991
I deal with this issue everyday... when I look in the mirror :D https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/enhanced/webdr03/2013/7/14/14/anigif_enhanced-buzz-6791-1373827511-15.gif
robscene
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jellz
Even if I knew nothing would come of it I would still tell them. I would owe it to myself to put those feelings out there so they can go away over time. If I don't say anything I feel like they would fester and I don't want that. After that I would just ride it out. It might not be the most pleasant thing to go through, but you grow from it.
chocopyro
Having been through this enough times, as I always seem to come into someone's life just before they meet the love of theirs conveniently a week or so later (Must be a karmic pattern. -__-; ) I've always equated it to that flower love parable you see floating around a lot in new age spirituality groups. And no, I won't quote it, I'll simply expand upon it to subject the lesson I've personally learned from it. To truly love someone is to see more than the petals, their scent, and a few leaves. You need to perceive the roots, the soil they draw nutrients from, and so on. Love is not about possession. Its not even a real "Feeling". Its so much deeper than that. I think it goes hand in hand with respect, gratitude, and trust more than infatuation and yearning. And if you respect a human like you respect the proverbial flower, you don't just pull them away from their lives, or even try to sway their feelings. No one chooses who they are attracted to. But they can choose who to pursue or not. And damn it, its not worth getting possessive. I don't mean to be a bummer, but to echo what Marche said, sometimes you just gotta let it go, and get comfortable with the fact that love and friendship are infact one and the same thing, whether the brain chemicals recognize that or not. That said, as Humanoid said, unless you want to kick yourself over the rest of your life, you should always give an honest voice to feelings of love. Preferably in a constructive way rather than destructive. A room that hasn't been cleaned or aired out for a while tends to smell musty after all. You're feelings are just like that.
infernalmonsoon
I have personal experience with this myself on both ends of the spectrum. If you want my honest answer; just stop. Abandon all ships. Run for cover. When you love someone and they don't love you back then the chances of getting together with them is next to impossible and it's just not worth it because you'll end up hurting yourself more and more and that kind of heartache is something you really don't need in your life. Just move on, no matter how much you might love them because their feelings towards you aren't going to change. It's really upsetting and it really does make you feel like shit but you're better off moving on feeling like crap than practicing a pointless exercise in futility that will just end up eating you from the inside out. Just move on and look forward because chances are there will be someone who will feel the same way for you as you do for them. For now, just take solace in the fact there are so many others going through the same thing as you are right now and know you aren't alone in this fight. There's someone out there for you so don't worry, it'll all work out in the end.
shawnji
Look for somebody else. I've fallen head-over-heels enough times to know that there are a thousand possible "ones" out there. You never know who else could walk into your life. I've gotten to a point where I can't really see myself getting too broken up about that kinda' thing anymore.
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