Body types/weight

its all how people perceive it I mean some are offended but bigger people just as some are offended by skinnier but no matter what all of the people think its what you think of your weight that matters even though I have a stomach and don't like it to much I still don't wear shirts unless im going out kindof have to anyhow since its florida its always hot

I actually can understand if people aren't attracted to overweight or fat people.. Because I too am not very attracted to overweight men. I prefer lean or slim or skinny guys.. Not necessarily muscular..But for some reason even though I am overweight/fat I still can't find myself being attracted to someone my same size or bigger.. So some people like it and others don't. Like I say to people all the time, A good relationship comes from a chemistry of both physical and mental attraction. They say looks don't matter only personality does but in reality it matters because you need to be attracted physically to your lover as well as attracted by there personality in order to love them for who they are.

see now I believe that to be not true and I never date by looks ive always dated by personality and to some maybe you need both mental and physical but then that just means your destined to have the relationship fail because people are constantly changing for good or bad and so what happenes when they do you fall out of love

Maybe and maybe not. We don't know what tears a relationship apart it can be many things. I only know that relationships don't last long if there is no attraction or chemistry in it. Think of it like this.. No one is going to love a walrus even if the walrus has the most amazing personality ever. And no one can love someone who is perfect like a doll but emotionless inside. You can't have one over the other you have to have the balance of both. That is what chemistry is.

I agree with Stellalina completely on this point. You really can't be interested in someone past friendship if you have absolutely no attraction to them, just as you won't be attracted to someone more than a physical way if they have no personality.

Sorry Darkryu but I agree with Stellalina and AMDarely. Looks DO matter. If looks didn't matter, then think about how many more happy couples we'd have now. That's reality man, accept it or deny it, there's no getting around that. @ Stellalina If what you say is true, you may need to think about your attraction level comparing with others. When your overweight let's just say getting someone who's slim will be pretty difficult.

well I know that most the world is shallow I get that it shouldn't be but people based their decisions on looks or status or money because that's what people care about now days I just personality don't never have

It is possible to not be physically attracted to someone at first though.<p> Like let's say you meet a person and you wouldn't exactly call them anything other than average looking. But then you start talking to them, seeing how they carry themselves, their smile, their laugh, their interests, etc. etc. and you then realize that you are attracted to this person and you find things in their physical appearance that you never noticed before like certain areas you didn't focus on before and you find that attractive.<p> I think that at least is how I at least find attraction in people. When I was in high school and got a boyfriend, friends and such would come to me and ask, "Is he cute?" I would mostly say, "Well, I guess," or, " I don't know what you would call cute..." because it's like he was average looking but in certain moments, especially when I was with him, I found him extremely attractive. <p> <u>However</u>, a lot of people take notice in things that stand out the most. So if you think someone is attractive before meeting them, you may approach them because of their looks. I don't think looks are that important personally because they don't show a person's personality or much about them. "Beauty is only skin deep" in other words. <p> As for me, what usually stands out is how they carry themselves. How confident they are in their walk, their talk, etc. People who are very confident or not at all confident is what just stands out the most in a crowd to me.<p> As a 225 pound lady, making me all those titles (Fat/Chubby/Curvy/BBW/Obese etc.) I don't expect anyone to be perfect because I am obviously not perfect but that is okay because perfection is boring. I don't wanna date someone who cares about perfection and is very vain or even just metrosexual. The "pretty boy types give me the creeps and I even find bishounen characters to be unattractive. That is not attractive to me at all. But really, that is all my preferences. <u>My point on this is that their are people in this world where looks aren't the number 1 thing to look for. I'm not saying everyone or a good majority but they are present</u>.<p> I said it once and I will say it again: "I don've much of a standard for body types i guess. Though I find body types that are extreme to be very attractive. Extremely Masculine? Cool! Extremely Feminine? Sweet! Extremely Androgynous? Nice!. Weight, I don't care much either. Though I like hugging so they better be totally huggable no matter their size or weight! Like a teddy bear~."

Mmhm Well most of the world is shallow lol~ I also agree with rinatanchu that attraction doesn't come right away all the time with people. You sometimes grow on them but that is pretty much what falling in love is right? Sometimes confidence alone can make someone really attractive. Though sometimes someone without confidence is not a bad person but it can make them alot less attractive but I guess this what I call a diamond in the rough. I guess confidence is important.. It can share your entire appearance to some people. Hmm.. I sure need some myself. x.x I can agree with that perfection is pretty boring but some people value it or respect it sometimes people think the more perfect you are the better the relationship will be but I think that is obviously not true. Gasp..How can you not like bishounen characters..!? W-With the flowing long hair!? GASP I am shocked. I love bishies. Though I don't think they exist that much in reality. LUL.

that is true, there is no such thing as perfection, but i do agree how people are attracted to status money and popularity, look at all these hollywood made celebs and artist whose only fame and popularity is because of their looks