Confessions

And, the beat goes on. Don't blame all women for the pain one (or a few) caused you, that'll get you very jaded very quick. Know what really helps and is cliche? Hanging out with friends and doing things that don't let you sit and sulk. If you truly believe you're depressed (That's not just being sad.), I'd suggest talking to a professional. Better yet, vent to your friends and she'd a few tears into some beers, might just be me there.XD

Ok yaas counter argument time. I went out with some friends on saturday and one brought agirlfriend while the other (male) hung out with the (female) friend. Imagine being at an amusement park trying to ride 2 seated rides with about 5 people. Still felt kinda lonely. Cuz we would get on rides and i would be the odd one out. So no going out with friends can be a double edged sword. Literally reminding you that ur single af and junk. Also yeah being jaded could work against, but its not exactly ur fault when most girls just play right into ur expectation of them.

Not retyping everything... I had more, but Imy to lazy. You could've still had fun on rides by yourself, it's not their fault. You chose to dwell on being single, it's not their fault. As for being jaded? If you keep getting the same results, it may just be time to change things up and it just may be your fault. But, y'all are young and in time you'll learn.

@yaas yeah ik it isnt their fault, im just saying. Not all the time does hanging with friends make you feel less lonely. I feel like their is 2 different types of loneliness you can feel. That is the relationship kind (bf/gf) and there is the true lonliness where you have no one at all. This includes friends. If lonliness went away just cuz you had friends then really what is the point of dating?

Panda, I had a bunch typed up and then it occurred to me that you've not said WHY dating is important. Why is dating important?

Idk about you guys but imo dating and friends are 2 different feelings. With dating its sort of more exclusive. You are able to be really close and share almost every moment in life with that person. It sort of gives you an excuse to drag someone around with you on an life long adventure where as friends come and go (not to say this isnt the case with dating). Sort of having a best friend but more intimate. To me best friends are hard to come by especially best friends for life. Like you im sure you would put ur life on the line for your wife. (At least i hope so) but do you have a friend you could say the same for?

I used to have a friend like that, but time has distanced us and having my son in the picture, I'd hate to leave my son. My wife could move on (Although be devastated, I'm sure), but it'd just be sad knowing my son would never get to know me or me him. And, you have a young man's mind set for a relationship. I mean, that's not an issue, but it really does come with the territory. If you don't have a friend you would put your life on the line for, you will and that brotherly/sisterly love is just as powerful in most cases. I miss having a friend like that. "Sort of having a best friend but more intimate. To me best friends are hard to come by especially best friends for life." Now that's pretty close to my line of thought. Like I said, it's not that I don't get it. It's truly not worth dwelling on, though. When/if it will be, it will be and getting sad over it won't speed it up. I got to the point before I met my wife of "just go with the flow" and that really made things a lot simpler.

Yeah true as time goes on even friends find love and a family ultimately leaves less time for other friends. Balancing both could be possible albiet tiem consuming but eventually one will be neglected a tiny bit more than the other. I've had friends who i would die for. Rn as it stands i would put my life on the line for a lot of people. But it doesnt necessarily mean we are friends :P military life. But seriously there is a clear difference between the 2 i mean i've heard the older you get the less you actually care about that stuff. Ik when i was younger it like plagued my thoughts nowadays it isnt as bad