Do you have to be attractive to find love theses days?

Haha, but it's not that simple. Which is why the it's being stated as it is. " Physical Attraction matters first, Personality COMPLETES the figure " By completing the figure, it fills the rest of the void. You should know by now that if an attractive girl has an ugly personality, she is no longer wanted. That is a given. The physical part itself is just an object and without a decent personality you can mesh with, things won't go well. It doesn't matter if you're ugly or not, physical attraction will always be considered first. You've got #1 right for me, #2 is essentially right too. And your #1 is also right but instead of growing more physically attracted, I'm pretty sure it's more of a Mental Attraction but it's usually both. I actually know of people, in this case, a girl who married a guy. Mentally attracted but has never had sex with him because she has 0 Physical Attraction to him. How the guy can stand it i have no idea. Fact of matter is, I'm explaining this in a matter of how the majority of the society plays this game. NOT the way "I" personally play the game. Which might be the reason why you're misunderstanding me. I haven't misunderstood you one bit because you've just been proving the point I was making, except in a lot more difficult way o_O.

You were misunderstanding me before because that was my whole point and where we differ. If you look back where I first say "I disagree with tornadomushoroom's statement about knowing someone's attractive when we see them," I wasn't saying that people don't see physical attraction. I was saying they see a current perception of physical attraction that may change based on their interaction with that person. Physical attraction can be measured using brain scans, that while we only know so much about neuroscience, there is a good deal that can't been seen with these scans. Basically, I think that these scans would change based on experiences. Don't read all of this stuff, unless you really want to. They are only somewhat related. It'll take awhile to look for a good source that's directly on topic. http://ccn.upenn.edu/chatterjee/anjan_pdfs/BeautyFaces8-08.pdf http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2005-05/aps-lai053105.php I think we stole the thread...

ok thats it this fucking topic is dead DEAD DO NOT COMMENT NO MORE IT OVER OK NOW GET THE FUCK OUT!!!!!!!>=( no more of this shit get out all four of you fuckers!!! go comment on ur pages if u wannna continue this shit!!!

Lol, I know! But if you would have read any of my previous posts, I had already also posted that Physical Attraction also changes based on interaction. Never did I disagree with your post because you were already stating what i previously did. Which is why I said that it feels like people are replying to my posts without even reading from my very 1st post to my current in this thread. Which is why I was telling you that you were Proving my point and it makes no sense to disagree with me lol. Smh. In which, all sums down to what I was saying from the very beginning. " Physical Attraction matters most (Because LOOK, is the 1st sense of 5 that we use when we seek Physical Attraction, unwillingly and willingly), and Personality completes the figure. (Because without a decent Personality, a person will always be unattractive, regardless if they have the Physical traits to keep you attracted). " For those who can't understand the meaning of it.

My apologizes Liru @tornadomushroom - I didn't read from the beginning because I'm also studying at the moment, so I've just been jumping on to reply. I'm still uneasy about how you say personality completes the figure.

We might have hijacked it but it's still on topic. lol. Yeah, i can tell you didn't lol. I don't know why you're so uneasy about the personality completing the figure. Physical Attraction though is the first thing judged upon most of the time is nothing compared to personality. If anything, everything you've posted is essentially what it means. No one is saying that Personality is inferior because it's not.

Here is the brutally honest truth (and please don't get mad) Girls- it's either a yes or a no. Men see you and they instantly know if you're dateable or not. In other words, you have to meet a physical standard. To reiterate, you have to be in some form good looking enough because personality comes after physical appearances in most cases. Now this won't apply to every case, but it is true 99% of the time. Guys- your appearances don't matter as much. It's all about your personality, humor, status, wealth, and perceived power. In other words, it's about how well you portray yourself as an alpha male. However, this does not mean you have to be "attractive" to find love. It just means that "attractiveness" helps girls and guys find love.

Attractiveness is a difficult quality to judge. People all find different things attractive and have their own personal quirks or for lack of a better word fetishes. Physical attractiveness is a quick easy step to get a base level of a relationship, it is what goes from there that determines how deep the attraction goes. Confidence in one's self is an important part of an attractive and defined character. You are who you are and there is nothing that will ever change that. Your opinions, likes, appearance, all of this may change but who you are as a person is eternal. And frankly if somebody doesn't like you for who you are then they can go fuck themselves. Exactly what I said to my ex when she tried to "make me better"