Kinda Of A Downer

well I've had zero luck on the mainstream sites. A girl did drive down to meet me but it didn't really go beyond that. I feel good about this site, it's just the girls I like are out of state.

I posted it in another thread but basically since we're geeks/nerds and are already spread out Long distance is what we should be looking for by default. Yes short distance is nice and preferable but realistically long distance is the best shot we have. now as for actual advice, ive been posting advice periodically all over this forum. These are things that worked for me so your mileage may vary but generally they should work for everyone. (I've actually posted this same advice in a thread you posted in too. So i hope you see this). Literally copy pasted from the other thread. "Charm is subjective so theres multiple ways of being charming. However, On its most fundamental level people agree its the ability to make playful banter and witty comments which are just more subtle ways of showing intelligence. Being able to do this keeps a person's attention, entertains and engages them all at the same time. Intelligence is a survival tool so according to evolutionary psychology its naturally very sexy if shown the right way. If he/she still doesn't fancy you after that then you aren't compatible on some other level or they don't like something else about you (which is usually arbitrary/preference or not related to personality). Which is why we have to put in effort to cover all our bases. Lets not be naive that means appearances, well roundness/worldliness, being compassionate and understanding etc. Learning and doing all that takes effort but I hope that spelled it out for you all. Good luck." On the topic of "covering our basses" there's a lot we can do with google. If you read what i said carefully you realize that this stuff isn't actually "what works" or "whats attractive" but rather self improvement, people skills, and becoming a better person which is what is ultimately what attracts us to others. (both genders) Hope that helps. Good luck.

Sad truth is, even if you play all the cards right. You sometimes won't win and that's because there's more than just personality. I keep telling everyone, Looks matter. We all hate that phrase but it helps a lot and i think people tell themselves that it doesn't so that it makes them feel less insecure. I hate the phrase itself but that's why i'm always telling everyone that with free time, they should spend some of it working on themselves. Not every girl/guy are going to think that we're attractive, physically. Regardless if you are attractive or not, but you can never go wrong by working on yourself. It only increases your chances.