Putting Love on hold

To be honest I find the fact that people are more scare of losing a friend over dating their friend it's not that I don't hold friendship dearly but if I had the chance of turning that friendship into something more I guess I would risk it and if gets mess up I will look back and regret it but enjoy the memories we had. Reaching that point you can tell if they were ever really your friends or just something in between since you were friends first .

Friendship is something I would not risk if there's a chance of destroying it. Reaching that point "AFTER" dating doesn't determine if they were ever really your friend or not. I call that ignorance and desperation of wanting more than what you have. And if it ever does come down to that, the fact still remains... they are most likely no longer your friend. This is all just my opinion and things I would do personally. I don't think losing a friend is worth it. That's desperation taking over.

desperate times call for desperate measures, I just want to know more about this ignorance you get from wanting more

To me being so scare of reaching something more than you have if it's possible then why not strive for It really bothers me people being scare of losing something it says a lot about you To me that says That you like to be mediocre

I tend to agree with tornadomushroom on this one. I have a really good friend- my best friend actually- who wants to date me pretty badly. Thankfully she understands and accepts my feelings about why I friendzoned her. She's been my longest, most consistent friend and anytime I date someone, we tend to just drift apart. It's awkward after the breakup because of hurt feelings, one side not feeling fulfilled or we've discovered that, for some reason, the relationship changed the dynamic we had and that we really have nothing in common anymore. It's not that I'm not striving for more, it's that I'm happy with the strictly-platonic friendship I have right now with her and any other very close friends that I have.

Haven't been active lately but being scared of losing something is not wrong Wallace. What it says about us is that we cherish things that mean a lot to us and that we aren't ignorant or arrogant enough to throw it away. Say this Wallace, if you end up finding a girl whose right up your alley and she is also pretty damn gorgeous. You would be afraid of losing them also. Telling me that you aren't afraid just means that you haven't grown yet. There is a difference in striving/reaching for something more and a difference in afraid of losing something precious. So to you, I would be mediocre but I would rather be mediocre than be a desperate, ignorant, arrogant person whose willing to throw away friendship. Shows how much character you have o_O lol.

Well I have been there already and I experience both sides on one side I stayed friends with this girl because I didn't want to loose the friendship and it end up hurting since the nd she would get would be abusive after that we stop talking due to one of them bf bit we still friends not as close as before but we still talk On the other side I was friends with this girl and it was great I asked her out and we started going out we realize after that we weren't really bf/gf material for each other so we had history still an friends but her next bf was jealous of the fact that we were close and she put some distance between us we haven't talk since I heard from a friend that she got married and it's great for her I don't have any regrets because I tried but it wasn't meant to be So that's why I say it's better to try being more than friends and failed than live with the what ifs

Lol you don't understand. I don't care whether you've tasted both sides of the rainbow or not. My point is that had you never dated your friend, you'd still be friends with her. That whole situation is exactly why I don't date friends, eventually, things may not work out and then if you continue to try and be friends, the next upcoming BF/GF will obviously be jealous and it creates even more distance. No one is fond of their BF/GF still being friends or close friends with their Ex. That is obviously only if you broke up on good terms. Most of the time, distance is created after the breakup because both people were not satisfied and either/or were disappointed by how the relationship turned out. It is definitely not "Better" to risk something that you should probably hold dearly to you. I think people don't realize why some friendzones happen. It sucks but most of the time it happens for a good reason. I'm not saying that you are and I'm not calling you out Wallace, but all it sounds like desperation with the way you're explaining it lol.

I only gave my two cents take it or leave it's alright with me