Falling out of love??????

This seems to be an issue for my best friend it's hard for her to admit love to begin with. But in one of her past relationships I just watched her become bored and complacent and just walking through the motions of it all. I admit when I was younger similar things happened, when your young the heart is young too... But when I find myself thinking about people, friends, family that I've come to love (not just from birth) I find it hard to even think about that love ceasing. Even that bliss of infatuation...I could ride that high forever. I believe it and know it in my heart. So whoever I end up with for life (marraige is a dream my mom gave me as a lil girl cliche but I'm still a girl ^//^) I know that I'll devote my life to staying happy with them...not just existing by his side as a source of money or sex or house keeper. But becoming is other half he can depend on no matter what.. Please tell me that this idealistic way of thinking and loving has not died out in the human race :D

It's a lovely way to think and I hope you find it. I'm a little cynical.. But I've been hurt. I think a lot of people have the wrong idea about marriage but that is exactly it. It's not about income, being an object etc. It's about being happy together. If your not happy together whats the point.. If the love fades it may have never been there to begin with, or maybe you've been so hurt it lessens. No expert ^^;

lol, I had my heart ripped out and torn apart multiple times for a long long time..but I guess I live with my heart, without love i don't feel like i'm living. I guess I'm just dumb enough to fall in love again XD

no i don't believe so either, but I've always been the one worse off for it XD. I guess It's not so much that I love to easy, because i definitely don't. It's more of once the chemistry is there and everything has been clicking...I don't pay attention to my heart and suddenly I'm in love haha XD, sneakly lil buggar. But i guess i have a lot a faith in the person i end up falling for to be like me which has never been the case before. But maybe I'll find or have found a person who can show me my faith Isn't wasted.. oddly enough the pain of heart break is unbearable but the high of love is unavoidable..I was just raised to love like i do i guess ^^

My opinion is that love is forever. There is no falling out of love. If you lose the feelings of affection, all you lost was the excitement of infatuation. But love is different, it takes time to develop. It's different from saying "I love you" in a relationship. When your love is still untested, and you say those words, all you're really saying is "I'm still attracted to you". The pace in which love develops varies from relationship to relationship. Some develop quicker than others. A relationship could even fail and fall apart, and you will still love them if it is truly love. I won't ever close my heart to others, I will risk getting hurt over and over again, because I know that one day I will find love, and when I do it will more than make up for all the times I've been deceived and used. Besides, no relationship can last without trusting your partner, if you enter with doubt in your heart, you've already lost. Your way of thinking, Megumi, hasn't died out. But it is difficult to find.

omfg im not retyping the whole fucking thing i just typed >:( it was like super long now way. all im going to say is that a guy really ripped me a new one after 3 yrs and choose his mother, i was humiliated in the worst way by another guy and no one but my father was there to hold my hand. I'll risk the pain of heart break only on a man who can prove hiimself to me and im basing my standards of the kind of man my father was, it sounds scary and hard but it really isnt just takes an honest heart

im still so pissed i typed it over 2 fucking times 2!!!!!!! >:( ughghghghghghghghghghghghghghhghghghghghghghghghhghhhhhhh. oh well not like it was that important ^^

Ouch I hate when that happens (The re-typing a long post) That is why when I finish I always select and copy my message, just in case. Also, I'm really sorry that happened, that's a terrible thing to experience, and no one can reasonably fault you for being so reserved after a situation like that.

hmmm i wasn't i went maneater crazy..i became a manipulative bitch the enemy of what i believe in...^^ i used and play with men like dolls and i even told it to them to their face sometimes...but I fixed myself when I found out my papa bear had cancer... or actually a while before then :) i changed for my family