Woman am I right fellas? And Guys

Just using this thread to vent about a bad relationship. Feel free to vent with me. Guys and Girls I started dating a new girl last month in early March. She was about 8 years Older then me but that didn't bother me, because we got a long great. Both read comics, loved Batman, watched the same cartoons, loved retro styles and so forth. Then about a week ago she told me she had to cancel our date, because she had to go pick up her "kids". I asked her oh how old are they? One is 15 the other is 13. I did the math and I didn't like it. I wish she would have told me sooner she had already had kids. I tried getting past it, but mentally I just couldn't get over it. I want to have kids some day but I don't want to marry someone who already has kids. I told her my feelings about the situation, and she understood. I thought she would have been mad. So we parted ways and haven't spoken since. I really liked her and was willing to commit.

Hate to say it but a lot of older woman have kids. You gotta expect that. I can get why you weren't comfortable with with them being older. But I also think she should of told you before you started dating. It's just deceptive...

I'm more with Nerdalous on this one. I think if you have kids, you should just let the other person know straight out. A lot of people aren't ok with other people's kids, and some people don't want kids at all.

Yep, I do agree. You should tell them before when you are in the getting to know you phase or it's just deceptive, that's my take on it. But you still gotta expect older woman to have kids, doesn't mean you have to date them but yeah... I did the math and just, wow... >.< Flip side, I don't care if a guy has kids, I care about if he is in their life (if he's got kids I'd expect him too be) I also care about how many women he has children with.. if it's one I'm not fussed it's when it starts getting into 2+ I'd be concerned.

Pfff now that you mention it, i'm 22 already. most girls my age that were in school with me got kids already.... it's not surprising she had kids, and if she didn't she probably would have wanted them as soon as you were committed. still it is something she should have mentioned. likely, the reason she did not is because most guys turn around straight away after finding out about kids.