*Frustration*

That's true However I myself have on rare occasions this "reverse meaning" type of using phrases. Sometimes girls will use that as a defensive manner. Just saying...yet it doesn't always apply and it's very hard to know if it's a reverse meaning or not.

in any case Maverick you just have to be patient. You are like what 19 going on to 20? Getting into a relationship is nice, don't get me wrong it is an awesome feeling to be able to share valuable time with a special person, but don't rush. Time takes it's course so go with it. For example my younger brother is the biggest otaku in the world. The kid imports everything from Japan and does not give a damn about the fact that he is such a big otaku. He's been single for the last 18 years but he waits until he can find a special person who he can share his passion with.

I've done speed dating a couple of times at cons. It's usually been a sausage fest in all honesty, with guys out numbering the girls nearly 2 to 1 at least from my experience.

Welp, given my profile, I'll come out and say I'm prooobably in this category of people that frustrate you on here, OP. Though I definitely can't speak for everyone on here looking for friends, I can at least give my perspective on it, right? ^w^; Katsuragi pretty much hit the nail right on the head. This doesn't only go for me, but just about every female friend I have searches for friends first, coupling later. When I say I'm looking for friends, that doesn't mean that I wouldn't mind a relationship. I'm just not really big on dating people I don't know too well. When someone comes onto me immediately, as non-nonsensical as this sounds, I immediately think that they're interested only for superficial reasons. "What could this person possibly want from me from only /looking/ at me?! They're looking for a date and don't even know my first name?! They don't even know me!" That's generally my thought process in these instances. I know, I know, it sounds stupid right? Nonetheless, it's how I think, and how many others may think as well. Nothing wrong with that. Sooo.. In order to reduce such instances, when on a site like this, I'll state that "I'm only looking for friends." Now, at the end of the day, I really do just want to make new friends. However, I've never had a crush on someone who /wasn't/ my friend in the first place. So, by only looking for friends, I'm taking the opportunity to get to know people on a better level than just those first few conversations. It gives me the satisfaction in knowing that they're someone I can trust, and trust is just something that I need before diving in deeper with anyone. Erm... Sorry for rambling on!! I'll go hide in a corner or something now...

dude tone down the desperation by a few notches. this is a really small site community so everyone can see your behaviour. people can sense desperation from a mile away in real life as well and its probably the biggest turnoff ever