What's a true friend to you?

I can honestly say that while I have many friends, my bestie and I are pretty tight knit. We don't necessarily see eye to eye on many things like politics, religion or even each other's life choices but we've been through things that'd break up lesser relationships like living cross country from each other for 4 years

That's good that you & your best friend are close. Also, it's a good thing that your best friend can respect what you like & do. You won't ever find someone who's exactly like you 100%. Hopefully you two will stay friends forever cause friendships do fade away over time.

Oh a true friend... hmm I can say in my lifetime so far (36 almost 37 years) I have had only a handful of true friends. A true friend is someone who knows all your flaws and faults and likes you inspite of them. A person who would give you the shirt off their back. Someone who is there through the good and the bad. A friend that tells you the truth even if it hurts because you need to hear it. That person who you trust unconditionally because you know they have your back. A person who you are willing to reciprocate these same qualities for. That is a true friend.

Talamar: I agree with you on everything you said. Some friends can't handle the truth. Some would get mad. It's like you can't have a serious conversation with the person. To me true friends don't exist. Only in the movies or fairy tales. Most people wouldn't have your back all the time. They sometimes get tired of hearing and dealing with your problems.

True friends are closer to you than family. I haven't always had the best family, and I think they'd betray me if continue to live my life as I want. Therefore the search for friends I can count on has begun. Mostly, I have met my true friends in college or online. A few guys I know from high school would do anything for me if I needed it as well.

Masuji: I agree that friends can be closer to you than family but they always say that family comes first not in my case. I don't have a good family. I only talk to 2 people in my family. You're lucky that you have true friends cause some people don't like me. What city do you live in FL?

I live in Brevard county. And I was verbally abused by my step mother. I forgive her, because it makes me the better person and helps me to move on from it, however, as a result she'll no longer be an influence on me. I won't ask her for any responsibility until I feel I have made it clear that I do not want her to be responsible for me anymore. Its my fault, in a way, for my own verbal abuse. Thus, by making her not responsible for me anymore I can let the past rest. And my father's family is good to me but they're bound by the antiquated ways of their ancestry. They believe that the successful individuals become golden geese for the rest of the family , its like this in a lot of familys. The "gold eggs" aren't always money, it could be time or responsibilities. And if someone doesn't do what they think they should do they try to shame them. I'm lucky to have some familial support from my mother and her family but her family is broken and divided. I don't want them to have to support me either. I want my own name, my own life. Its nobody elses responsibility but my own.

Masuji: I live in Orange county. It's always good to forgive people and not hate them cause it isn't good to have that pain in your heart from the people who had cost that. I had gotten physical and verbally abused. So we can relate on that a bit. At least you have some good family. I envy you. I know it isn't always good to hold onto the bad things that had happen in the past.