Virginity

Lol, you might be right on the money there. It's weird how some people prefer virgins, I guess to mark their territory like a primitive animal and some who want those who have experience already so it's go time at the push of a button.

"Try before you buy" was a euphemism for those who are getting in a serious relationship or get even married. It wasn't supposed to be taken literally. All it means is that you should know how your partner feels about sex. We all have our opinions here, sorry if I offended you or anyone. I just think I have more free and open belief about it so don't hate.<p> Again my apologies if you think I'm not being respectful about it. It's just a lot of people think sex and marriage and love and sex go hand in hand in Western religions. Sure, I am assuming that I'm talking to people who believe in some kind of deity and follow some kind of religion. That's because I am a minority among them.<p> I am just stating my opinion, I'm not singling out anyone or being disrespectful to anyone. <p> As sensitive as the subject might be, I just hope that everyone else can mature in their responses.

I definitely agree about the sex drive point. That's something you wanna discuss with a significant other before you get serious for sure. That's a point that could make or break a relationship. People have to be at least willing to compromise. Also, just cause someone's a virgin, it doesn't mean they have a low sex drive!

Exactly Xueli, a relationship is a series of compromises. Not being abble to compromise it can break a relationship. I know this couple who's been dating for 7 years and recently got engaged. Female iinazuke hates how male iinazuke smokes weed. If they were to get married, he has to comprise that. If he doesn't do it she will call it off. Hmmm.... iinazuke or weed. That shouldn't be a hard decision. But then again, some guys dump there girls over some FPS like Counter Strike or Halo. Do the math. Sighs...

I wouldn't mind if someone was a virgin. I was a virgin until I was 21, and the first woman I was with couldn't tell, so it doesn't necessarily mean a bad performance. All the same, I don't hold to the waiting until marriage idea. Sex is experiential, and unless you're in an open relationship, having only one sexual partner for your entire life seems... wasteful, though that's not exactly the right word for it. I feel that there are some experiences you should have with more than one person before you decide that you will share those experiences with only one person for the rest of your life. I say this because I tend to think of marriage as a life-long commitment, and I am, if nothing else, monogomous.

I actually had a discussion like this with a guy I talked to at work. His way was the whole "try before you buy", and he tried to explain it to me as being "if you have on of those relationships where you don't have sex until you're married, you don't exactly know what you're walking into. What if you get to that point and you're just like, yeah this isn't going to work out, and you find out you're just not compatible that way?" I could kind of see his view on the subject, but with I being a virgin and all, didn't really know how much it works that way. With me however, I would prefer my partner to be a virgin if only because I'm inexperienced myself. Besides that, it's only preference. If I did fall in love with someone that wasn't a virgin, I wouldn't really think much about it.

I think having sex just makes you more experienced so you know what's up. Not having sex just makes you more curious. I don't mind if the person I dated was a virgin, it attracts me actually.