Flirting.

I don't know how many times I had to edit this to get to the point. Here we go. Flirting. I dislike when someone makes it clear in a straight forward manner that they have taken an interest in you and maybe want to get to know you better or hang out- but then there they go, flirting with the next person. In real life this happens. It even happens on here. Uh- Hello? Remember me? I'm the person you were talking to geez, what..10 minutes ago? Maybe I'm even still talking to you- I also just happened to stumbled onto the main page and am now seeing you message this other person not only half the same stuff you said to me, but how much you've taken an interest to them as well. Not only does the activity log of what others say being visible make me feel slightly stalkerish, but seriously. I dislike when people flirt with many people at once, hoping to increase their chances of finding someone- Is it so hard to focus on one "target" at once? Yeah. I get this is a dating site, but you wouldn't take someone out and spend the entire time talking to the man/woman at the next table. Maybe I'm a little bitter about this since I've seen it reoccur often- to me and to friends. What makes it difficult is not knowing how to address it without feeling like an idiot. Anyone else experience/experiencing this? Also, since it ties into the subject. How much flirting is too much flirting.

Im a one person at once kinda guy. If Im interested in someone, Im interested in that person only. I like to give things my full attention. Besides, Id be lucky enough for just one person to be interested in me so any more than one and it just gets complicated. The fact Im not very good at flirting doesnt help much. I can be very flattering though(If Im going out of my way to flatter, I mean it..). As for too much flirting. I guess thats when the other person starts to get a little too uncomfortable?

I agree. It gets even more awkward when people don't realize they are making someone else uncomfortable DX

Thats why I dont really flirt with people as such. Im not very good at reading signs about whether Im making people uncomfortable or not and because Im someone that doesnt like to inconvenience people, I tend not to bother at all unless I have a pretty good idea that it would be welcome...

On the same hand, I know people like my brother, who is dedicated to his girlfriend, she gets mad if he talks to other girls, even if its simple politeness. I hate that. I'm the type of guy who is like, whats the big deal? If I was flirting with her, yes, but if I'm just a friend to her and I spend a lot of time with my partner, I don't like people getting envious like that. I won't cheat, because my dad did to my mom, his mistake that had consequences not only for him but me and my brother, but on the same hand I won't cease talking to other women, thats not fair.

Mm, Not allowing the partner or whomever to talk to the opposite sex is just uncalled for. That sounds more like insecurity's- which is normal these days- hell, I'm pretty insecure myself, but there are healthier ways to manage it. Sometimes it feels like there are a lot more insecure females then males, the reality to it is though- We just want to be made to feel special. important. More important then the other females/males whatever your preference in your life. I have many guy friends that also share those ideas. Which really isn't something I get to experience anymore XD

I am always very soft and polite with women. Sometimes the younger crowd stalks me for it. I hope that doesn't come out as flirting. I am the type of guy that makes my intentions clear when it comes to strong emotions or opinions. If I am indifferent I will just sound passive and indirect. If i mean it i focus on one person alone and no one else. Granted I will talk to everyone but only comit most of my time to one person only. I tend to have long conversations and have a hard time letting go. At that point you know you're the one because there's no way I have time for anyone else.

oi oi, Endlessknight- wait till the girls get a load of that comment and start to swoon 8D In a way I'm similar, although I uhh.. can be a bit more "bold" with the language. Often I get upset with myself since I'm not nearly as feminine as other women...hate wearing my hair up, love my jeans and skate shoes, always have my wallet with it's chain, hate wearing skirts or dresses unless its for my "special person- in fact, only time turn on the feminine side full blast is when I do it for a partner Those combined with my forward way of speaking with my language... it's ridiculous how much this has impaired being treated with respect or like a female at all. I finally just tuned it out and came to the conclusion that you know what, screw them. I'm a great woman xD If I'm going to go all out, I'm going all out for once person alone.

@Valshe I always aspire to make whomever I'm interested feel special, unfortunately not many women I've met have been interested in me, and those that were, I wasn't interested in. I'm not a picky guy but I do have a few dealbreakers. But anyways, I'm able to be both the gentleman, who wears the fancy suits and treats women to dinner, and the guy who can take care of cleaning and ironing and other household chores. I'm also one of many men who prefers our partner to speak out to us directly and not to just push it under the rug. I hate that, because it took me a while to see that some women won't tell you that you're bothering them or they're not interested, it pisses me off. Just because I'm a nice guy doesn't mean I can't take someone telling me no, in fact I prefer to only put my time in if I'm even a candidate or a friend.

I wish more girls would be forward about things... I like someone that can just say what they mean without making you have to guess..