Overcoming abuse

I went through a lot of abuse as a child (starvation, beatings, emotional abuse) and have my ways in which I recover from it and pick up my pieces. Creating things, doing simple stupid shit like taking care of my skin and hair, reading and thereby travelling to other worlds, drawing, making music... If you're someone who had to go through abuse... how do you deal with ? Maybe you can share some tips for all of us?

I do try uwu-ing hard, man. Still get that sleep paralysis. And my whole body sometimes still goes completely frigid when I see someone similar to my former abusers.

I went through alot of abuse from my father. Maybe not physical abuse like my siblings but mental for sure. It lead me to have a shit load of self worth issues. I now have breakdowns occasionally where I keep asking myself why things never happen for me like it does for my friends. I wish I could get cuddles from someone who loves me. That really would cure everything messed up with me. I would cry like a bitch as it happens too. Hell I'm crying rn.

I want to feel appreciated by someone and be hugged and loved on occasionally. Feels like I am the only one who tries so hard. I tried giving up trying so hard but it's who I am. I don't want other people to feel unloved like me. ;-;