Anti social personality disorder

My ex seems to show traits of a vulnerable narcissist, definitely a personality disorder of some type. He would gaslight ,hover and tries to manipulate me into accepting horrible behaviour. He has zero empathy and Can not self reflect properly about actual legitimate bad behaviour but constantly feels insecure and depressed about inconsequential things. Felt rubbish about his ability to do his job, then next day angry he is looked over for promotion. *shrug* he genuinely doesn’t seem able to help himself though so I feel bad for him as he never seems happy. But that said, he said and did some pretty weird and hurtful stuff when we split while we was trying to work on stuff at couples counselling. Was just manipulation tactics to have his cake and eat it, made him look like a psycho though lol. Like if your gonna be crazy with me, I’d prefer up front crazy like dead roses delivered to my work or love letters written in blood posted through my door lol Adams family style.

also to explain it, the terms sociopath and psychopath are outdated, it all is ASPD now, its a sepectrum with many differnt diagnosiseseseses

ASPD yup is like an umbrella The diagnosis is ASPD but whether you are a sociopath or psychopath is different things

Ryzard I think we all do to some extent at some point in life. If I’m depressed I shut everyone out. I’ve had too much empathy and thought the best of people and was horribly mistaken, my fault. So now I do not trust easily, and try not to get emotionally invested in people, to stop me from getting hurt. I have empathy but it doesn’t translate well irl. If you cry in front of me chances are I’ll just stand there looking at you feeling awkward, there are very few people I’ll comfort with a hug. I come off as cold. Then other times can say the most comforting helpful genuine things. I wonder why I do, is it just to play the social game to get through life smoothly, saying the right thing at the right time, or do I actually care? It’s safer for me not to care at the moment until I am better able to judge the character of others I socialise with. So safe but volcan style psycho or vulnerable “normal” human? I can’t decide lol :)