When did you grow up?

death, family feud over it, abusive childhood, moving out, uni, breakup, sudden illness, depression and anxiety, followed by sudden panic attacks caused by it all... but hard shit makes you grow, as long as you don't give up and keep going although that can be pretty tough sometimes it's worth it tho! and it can be done!

I grew up when i was 14 years old in my 9th grade mid. And the growth was sudden, prompt, huge and impactfull! Aproximately 6 months! Within that i completely changed from my childish self, not just my family or friends but everyone in my class and school back then could see the change. And what lesson i learned during that growth were 1. Emotions are useless piece of shit 2. Most of the friends you have are fake so instead have few friends but really close ones. 3. Be optimistic and aim big whether that aim be a fantasy or not 4. The world doesnt wait for you, you need to always keep yourself at edge, pushing yourself harder and harder to your limits if you want to reach anywhere near your goals 5. It doesnt matter if you are being bullied or publicly shamed, as what others think about you dont matter even a bit.. all you have to do is pursue your goals and live your life however you wish and eventually those bullies will realize they are the real shits of this world (this was the most important lesson for me back then when i was 16) 6. Observe your surrounding and yourself, you need to know everything about you if you intend to cooperate with yourself for another 100 years ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. 7. Stay out of unnecessary trouble and enemity.. always!

Ryokai, I'm unsure of whether you mean Aliens, or a group like the original Nazi's.(SPACE NAZIS!) Foamy the Squirrel sounds like a cartoon, But whatever helps you is what matters, it's about what you learn, Not how you learn it. In a sense Life is a game, I agree, But it's how you treat this life, and how you play the game that matters more than just winning it. Dopple, Yeah, I'd been through alot of things, but due to the fact they were a year younger(And not someone far older I could prepare for.) than me, it just hit harder I suppose. Along with the fact they were closest friend, Yeah not fun. I understand this greatly, Actually. My own father was a fantastic role model, To the point I shaped myself much after him. I'm glad your father was able to steer you in the right direction. CAC, Don't say that man, Even the most 'undesirable' people physically can often find someone as long as they got the personality, and skills to find one.(And you can learn the skills.) Choco, My first experience with death was the death of my grandmother's, had my 9th birthday in the hospital due to it, But it didn't change me, So I can say depending on the death, and where you were when it happened can have different effects, and I hope your grandfather surprises everyone and lasts quite a few more years. However, 'growing up', In my opinion isn't about brooding or just being cynical over life, Not being able to have fun. What I mean is basically losing that innocence, When the good guys are good, the bad guys bad, That life is tough, and that it isn't fair. Whisp, Good luck with that. Baka, However long you need, is what you need. And I can empathize on some things changing that you rather of not had about yourself. Panda, What caused that growth bro? Just random life occurrences, or something significant? Kratos, Yeah, Moving out can do that for you I'm sure. Glad it was something positive than negative, If this were a perfect world, that's how it'd always work.

Marcus, Life can indeed be shitty. From the deaths of family, personal injury, isolation, or betrayal, it can hold a number of terrible things, best thing you can do is live a happy life anyways as the biggest Fuck you to it as possible. Lamby, Well good luck, it'll happen sooner or later. Probably. XD Laughing, I can understand that. mentally I grew up at a similar age over the teachings of religion, human psychology ect. 1. They can be irritating, But they are far from useless my friend. 2. I never had this issue, but I agree with the sentiment 100% 3. Agreed. 4. I always knew that(Good parenting there.) But it's good to learn this lesson asap. It can lead to much fewer issues later in life, glad you learned it early. 5. Basically the old adage of, "Don't care about what other's think about you.", Which I agree with. 6. Agreed, but good luck on getting 100 man XD. 7. Always pick your battles, as they say. Very important value.

death has never affected me like it has people around me grandparents died but thats just something that happens right? a family friend that was more of a family member died of a stroke a year or two back, been in my life and lived in the same house as me since i could remember but it didnt really shake me to my core i was more busy taking care of my mother, who was hit hardest i had to see him in the hospital and care center, where he was having delusions that his mother was going to euthanize him i was more upset that my mother was upset i cried more over when my cat lost his leg i loved my grandparents and him but it just didnt really affect me emotionally if anything happened to my mom id probz kill myself, but i cant say the same for my siblings iv been bullied relentlessly in school in all grades but it only made me hide in a shell then grow up trauma has made me regress rather than grow up i guess things affect people differently

Lamby, Everything does affect everyone differently, Never said I wanted you to go through death XD. Just that people usually grow up sooner or later, which in my opinion, is a good thing. Personally the death of my brother affected me so much because we did everything together, he was my wingman in life, and I felt responsible for him. So when he died I felt like it was my fault. I have a strong protective streak, that is like a double edged sword in that area. Either way if you do ever grow up, I hope it's due to some realization rather than anything traumatizing.

^it might be useful for others, but in many situations i used to find emotions unnecessarily a hindrance. I dont have such problems now, but i still think that when you need to take the most important decisions of your life you must clear you head(if possible clear your lower head between your legs too :v), calm yourself down and think things logically as much as possible. So in general situations i might still agree with you, but in most important times of life you should be able to say bye bye to your emotions or more appropriately.. controll them well.

i just saw people saying death made them grow up, so i told how it was different for me xD yeah responsibility has made me grow up just a lil bit

Well, Emotions also inspire people(Dopamine is one hell of a drug.), They get us to be better people with Love. They give us strength with Anger, They give us reprieve with Joy, and they give us lesson's with Sorrow. Emotions are VERY important and useful. Though I would agree on most choices, You should lock your emotions down, to make the most levelheaded answer.