Would you change for the one you love?

If people are self-destructive and things like that then they already should know that they shouldnt be in a relationship and is in a rs just to fill the gap, void inside themselves because thats wat they think its rite ~ If people cant be ready in a rs then they shouldnt be in one in the first place and you know wat, if they are and they screw it up then automatically they should know that there not ready for a rs ~ The point im making here is that if people are dating and they have the mentality of an adult to date then go ahead and date but dont change by being in a rs because someone asked you to because there trying to image there fantasy in there head to someone else ~ If you dont have the mentality of a adult to even remotely date then dont date because its screwing yourself over and thus people begin to change from multi relationships they have been in ~ And to answer your last question its wrong in my opinion its wrong ~ If your gonna date you have to date the person for his/her personality and physical appearance if you can even handle that ~ Wats the point in liking someone if you like there personality but there looks are a barrier, or vise versa ~

This is why i dont date automatically without being friends first and i think everyone in the damned world lacks ~ They meet or talk to a guy or a girl and want to jump on there bones ~ If a hidden one then i would still talk about it like, " ive been told that i have blah blah or i do blah blah and i dont think its true but other people have told me blah blah " i would say still say something to your partner rather then shutting your mouth because if they find out by other people rather then giving her a heads up then youll be screwed ~ In a way im saying is that, you need to be honest and have trust and communicate with your significant partner even if its something that they dont see themselves partically but other people does it would be nice is they told em ~ I use to be nice, like super nice to the point i say " okii dokii, hi hi, thankies, aw your sho cute lemme hug you " and all that crap ~ Now i dont give a flying fuck about shit anymore ~ In my lifetime i wouldnt think i would be vile and vicious on online but i would be the same as i was at home, but i would be nicer online like how i am at work ~ But tbh you have to be honest with yourself, and you have to put yourself out there for how you are and if its something they dont know then do be it, but know that its gonna lack for a relationship if thats wat they want ~ But then again i donno how people cope from thereselves unlike me because im different ~ So it can go either way because it is debateable from how i see it and how others see it ~

I just got of a relationship, my first one to be exact and well damn, he wanted me to change so bad. He said he loved that I was sweet and kind to him, however he wanted me to change so much and was forcing it to happen quick, like real quick. And we've been together for a year and I thought it was normal and then I realized I couldn't handle the pressure and the anxiety that came along with it. He basically wanted me to lose weight, which is really no biggie cause I need to do it, wanted me to become really talkative and social, I'm shy and anti-social as fuck so I struggled here, wanted me to change my family, okay looks weird, wanted to control my education, okay looking bad, wanted to control where my money went, wanted me to show myself off more, be naked and all that shit and then yeah. I needed out. So yea, a little change is good, but only if your partner wants too. And if they don't agree, well find a different person and not go through the horrible struggle I went through.

Yeah. Never date someone who controls you or your lifestyle. You have to be the one to want to change for you. S'baaaad mojo.

Well, I've changed some old habits because of the person I'm with. I seek happiness with them so I decided to change a bit. Not just for them but for us both.

Being in a relationship is not a status. It's something you work on everyday. A relationship consists of a lot and one of those things is learning to live with each other, make compromises. If you are in a relationship it means you love that other person (atleast if it's a healthy relationship. I understand when people want to change for the one they love because they want to make them happy. But you can't forget about yourself. There's a limit to what things you can change for someone else. Don't let it change your life because after all you decide over your own life and yourself. My advice is to be yourself and find someone who appreciates that. Together you can work on the little things to make the relationship grow.