Dude Advice

As far as finding a potential bf? My advice: - Take a genuine interest in the dude. Ask him about his family, friends, interests, etc. - Do your best to keep conversations going. I know this can be kinda tricky sometimes given there are a lot of socially awkward people out there. Guys/Gals who just reply with lazy one or two word responses during a conversation can turn off someone pretty quickly as well as make you feel they're disinterested in you. You don't have to necessarily treat a convo like an interview, but do your best to put some effort into chatting at a minimum. - Avoid sexual talk early on. It's pretty easy for conversations to devolve into perverted stuff pretty quickly. That can come down the road when you're more comfortable with a person and you know they're genuinely interested in you. - If someone does like you, they'll make an effort to contact you. It's pretty easy to put someone on ignore on here with no real consequence. If you chat up with someone and then they all of a sudden severely cut back or stop talking all together, it's generally a sign they aren't all that interested any longer, or were never really interested to begin with. It can be easy to get depressed over a situation like this, but the best you can do is chalk it up to the reality of dating online and put your energy towards someone else. - And as @shadower mentioned, people who throw out the "love" word too quickly are just mainly running on infatuation and/or are still in the early honeymoon part of the relationship. These are also the people (as mentioned before) who have a tendency to severely cutback or cutoff contact all together really quickly once they realize they aren't seriously interested. There's no real magic bullet for finding a bf/gf, especially on here. I've been single for seven years myself although that probably has a lot to do with my age than a lot of other things. A lot of these pieces of advice translate to both on here as well as IRL. As with most sites like this, there's always the fun hurdles of a potential LDR on here if you meet someone which is it's own ball of wax entirely.

RainX Thank you! I'll definitely add it to the list of things to keep in mind. Yandere I understand. Once I agreed to do the dating thing I have been forcing myself to post pictures of me. However all of my pictures are from my Facebook that I've already had to get over the anxiety of posting. It's still scary but at least it's some kind of progress c:

BRIBE WIth CooKIES AlwaYS WorkS

Dandaman XD If I was gonna use food to bribe it would be Strawberry Guava Cake because that's what I get highly praised for making. Even my friends that don't like cake are in love with it ^_^

You can cook and your single?!?! Between good sex or good food, I'd take good food (I got lucky and have both. ;) ). I mean, at some point there may be a day that I need Viagra( Not to mention, I have two very capable hands.XD), but I will always eat. Didn't get to be 230lbs by dieting.XD Trust me, EVERYONE likes good food and they love a great cook. Soooo... *Ahem* Care to share a recipe?

Yaasshat guys tend to see me as one of the guys I guess -_- Guys complain about how girls friend zone them getting suckered into girl talk and whatnots. Well I get sucked into sexual talks of them checking out other girls and being their wingman :/ Whenever I have mentioned dating or liking someone they've always said I was too good for that person and rejected the idea. But it's whatever... Onto cooking! White Cake mix Cool whip Frozen Hawaiian strawberry guava juice (You can use any other flavor from that brand) Corn starch 1. Make the cake as directed on box. When done cooking place in fridge if you want it to be moist. 2. In a saucepan or pot, heat the frozen juice. Slowly add corn starch to thicken it creating a glaze. (I usually mix the corn starch with a bit of water so it turns into a paste then add it to the heated juice while mixing so it's not clumpy) How much corn starch you add depends on how thick you want the glaze. Most prefer it still a bit runny. Let cool after. 3. Add cool whip onto cake when cake is cooled, leveling it out. How much cool whip depends on your preference. 4. Add cooled glaze on top of cool whip, leveling it out. 5. Bon Appétit~

Ah, just a white cake with a glaze? I think I might improvise a bit, but it still sounds delicious. I might try a home made pound cake instead of store bought mix, I just feel more accomplished when I've made everything from scratch. Onto the "friend zone"... To good? While that's always a possibility, it's still up to you (and them) to just go for it. At the worst, you get rejected and move on. But, I'm sure you know this. Ya know, you could always ask a guy friend for a little help. I don't mean be desperate, just ask for advice. I only say ask a friend, because they'd know the situation better and might be able to give pointers from there. Dating Is a lot of trial and error.

^_^ Oh that's sound even better. Let me know how it turns out please! T^T It was my guy friends who told me I was too good for the guy I liked and rejected the idea. When I wanted to confess they kept trying to talk me out of it or made it so I couldn't tell him. Then finally one came out and told me the guy only sees me as a friend. Word got to him that I liked him. I cried, moved on and he moved away. Never really liked anyone since :/ As for friends that are girls, I don't have many and they're the ones who seem to see my situation as a "get it over with" type of deal. They basically was gonna pimp me out -_-'

Unfortunately, you do just have to have the attitude of "IF things click, great. If not, oh well.". I mean, wasn't it better to know whether or not he was into you? I always found that I'd kick my self most if I didn't atleast try. As for your female friends trying to "pimp you out"... If they know that's not how you are, that doesn't really show respect. Now, is it that they just think you need to get laid or...? I mean, if it's about sex to them, they sound like High school kids. If there are constant issues and they seem to revolve around those you are friends with, it might not just be you. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. Be you, but understand that those who you hang around with will strongly influence you and the views of those around you.