Marriage OR Break Up

Sadly marriages don't last either. I should know going through a divorce now. It's not as bad as I imagined really I'm surprised it lasted as long as it did. I was just a mere puppet. Sorry I forgot to mention. I'm new here nice to meet you.

If I end up dating someone then I would like that girl to be the person I marry in the future - saying that though, I don't go into a relationship thinking "I'm gonna marry this girl" right from the get go. At first it's just a fun time for us but as our bonds deepen and I feel closer and closer to the girl I'm with then I will start to have serious thoughts about marriage. I actually did get engaged at one point - although I never told my family about it because it was all early days in that stage but eventually it all just fell apart completely. It's strange honestly, dating someone just for the fun of it to begin with then moving onto thoughts of marriage to actually proposing AND succeeding only for it to go under. It's depressing as hell and sure it's a bad experience but it's definitely not put me off marriage, she just wasn't the one that's all. My story aside break ups aren't that bad - it just shows that it wasn't meant to be and I believe marriage is only the first stage of that ultimate goal - personally I believe achieving that ultimate goal is the get married, have kids, raise them right and watch them become wonderful, successful and loving people in the end because at that point it proves that all the blood, sweat and tears that you and your partner put in together for all those years paid off in the end and it proves that true love can never be broken when you go through all of that together. At least that's how I see it, the majority of us won't have to worry about that for a while though and those of us who are still single won't have to worry about marriage for a while. There is much more to life than getting married and chances are you'll randomly stumble across a special someone on your path in life anyway and everything will just click into place provided you put in the effort of course. I guess the whole idea is to not overthink this stuff because desperately wanting to find someone and marry them is certainly not going to speed up the process.