Being 36 years old and Otaku, So hard to find a GF

I'm 36 year old and i am a otaku and geek a little since the age of 16 year old. I'm not very good with the girls so i've never had a girlfriend in my life. I'm not good to make friend too, even thou i'm a nice guy. I was wondering if there's any hopes for me or if my case is hopeless being an otaku at my age to find love. Any advices or hints are welcome.

yeah that must be even harder. Only difference between us is that you must at least had 1 girlfriend in your life and i didn't ever had 1 girlfriend once yet. So I'm still not sure if my case is hopeless or not. Giving up on love permanently or still hoping for it is my great est choice to make right now. That why i need advices.

(this is not taking a stab at you i swear its just how i give advice and if i do offend you in any way shape or form i am sorry i'm just trying to help also i am no expert this is just what i do and it has helped me although it was with all the wrong people as i was younger and even more stupid then i am now) here is my advice to you lower your standards (if you have not done so already) give the world i giant finger and just do what you want to you can take the slow route of making friend through friend and blah blah blah or you can join social clubs in your area (im sure you can find at least one you are interested in) this way you know the person you are talking to has at least one common interest which is always a good start and (i learnt this the hard way) going out and getting so drunk you forgot what you have done that week is not a good way to meet people and why because some way and some how you will make a complete ass of yourself the girl will tell her friends and the chain will continue until everyone that goes to that pub bar or club knows what you did.

other then that just portray confidence even if your like me and its zero unless legless anything can be faked you maybe melting like an ice cube left in boiling water on a burning stove but your body langue and appearance don't have to show that. i wont lie yea it will be damn hard at first but it will get better. another thing you could do is change you state of mind towards this if you case is i am too afraid to talk to girl see it more of you are too afraid of rejection once you try once and your rejected welcome the club of every man on the planet trust me mate its not just you (i'm guessing 60-70% of guys on all dating website are like you with that fear) but once it happens and you realize its not that bad you will be able to keep going at it (assuming this is the problem of course) other then that all i can advise you on is standard thing (this is defiantly going to offend in some way or another so i am sorry but i am cold and blunt with advice) change you clothes spend some money on something nice that you know you look good in (by this i proper shirt or polo shirt) because it true what they say when you look good you feel good. wash regularly (i have mates that don't so ignore this if you do) exerciser some more (by this i don't mean just your fingers thumbs and wrist) if you don't work start and finally you live once as far as anyone knows so why waste it on just getting by do what you want go where you want and if you see a girl who you feel you want to know go over and say hello (doing this more often will eventually show you how to start conversations and help you with your shyness) i do hope this helps you and good luck (sorry was over the maximum characters for one post)

I must say that i already do lot of the thing you said, i take care of my-self well and i do what i like to do that i am alone or not. Fact is that i could be called a lone wolf and a independent guy, so i do lack of social skill a lot. Being a otaku and a geek at my age is rather hard since most peoples see me as a alien or a weird creature and that don't help my case. Being younger could help my case if i could keep the life experience i have now. Since all my interests and passions are otaku, geek and asians oriented, they are considered as youngster interests so there's not really Social Club for me to join since there's not much peoples in their mid-30 there. I don't try to find excuse and even alone i still fully enjoy life like going to a anime con alone and have lot of fun, but i still feel lonely sometime and i still wish to have someone to share my life and passions like a girlfriend and a companion one day. But time pass and i'm getting old so the questioning come with it about love.

fair play to ya but still if you want to change something in your life you have to start with your mind set towards thing yea your in your 30's no big there are social clubs out there and going to cons and so on is better then just sitting around so as nothing will come of that you got to look in the right places and know what your looking for

I agree drakis07, it is hard as you get older. I'm only 31 myself, but I've noticed that there is a distinct decline of Otaku as you get older. It does make it hard to find other Otaku to spend time with.

So Sobi are you looking too for love or did you find what you was looking for already lol ? Me, i must say right now i just let the door open for friendship or love, but what is inside must be or boring or scary because no one has ever enter or even get a peek of the open door. A old otaku and geek is maybe scary or boring who know.

For a male otaku over the age of 25 it is REALLY hard to find an otaku girlfriend. Very few girls in our generations are otaku. With the younger crowds being otaku is more acceptable amongst females and therefore there are more of them, but when we were younger it was even more of a fringe thing than it is now. If you watch the "newest users" that pop up you'll notice that if you average out the ages that the males joining are around 10 years older than the females as a whole. And unlike in the cultures from which our beloved anime/manga come from, they aren't open to men who are more than a few years older than they. But, who knows, maybe there will be an influx of older females.