Uhm.... What? Need some advice.

ChibiSoul - I understand what you are saying; however, I believe that this is not a healthy relationship whatsoever. From what I have read it is my understanding that Crobi is being used, and it should be painfully obvious that this guy does not have the best intentions. You can defend him all you want, but Crobi felt it was necessary to hear others opinions on a situation that she is in. Crobi - I will agree with ChibiSoul on one thing. Have the talk with him.

@ChibiSoul -- I /have/ had a serious talk with him, and he said he was apparently 'taking it seriously.' If this is taking it seriously, I don't want to be in a relationship with him at all.

I never was defending his deeds in this circumstance, but I will defend his integrity as another human being that should not be so flippantly discarded by those of us who do not truly know him. I would expect we should all desire and appreciate others to treat us the same way. It's a matter or dignity and respect, regardless of what we might hear or see at face value. does that make sense? I've got no problem with criticizing what he's been doing to Crobi, by all accounts, very disrespectful, but let's keep it civil is all. see the bigger picture. and yes Crobi, if you've already had that talk and he's still not taking you seriously, then tell him you're done and let him know why, too. trust your heart!

If he genuinely meant that - then I don't think he's worth you time, effort, and (apparently) money. If he didn't mean it - he MAY be a bit of an insensitive jerk. I can't really find an excuse for that. You don't just ask for handouts while continuously putting no effort into seeing your girlfriend. And then to call the behavior SERIOUS? That is not a healthy relationship to be in - if that's the best he can do. I don't know him, so I can't say for certain, but (from what you just said) it seems like he needs to man up a bit. I guess the big deciding factor is if he makes you happy despite all the crap. I see no positive to this arrangement, but I'm not you. If you are not as happy as you can be - he's not doing it right. Especially in a BRAND NEW relationship.

We don't know him it's true. But he is acting like a jerk and we can base opinions on those actions. That is the way life works and it may not always be fair but actions do speak louder than words. I have been on the wrong side of this sort of thing and being dumped help me get my act together. You know something is not right Crobi. If I have learned anything in 62 years, it is to always trust my gut.

^^ i agree. judge the actions, the deeds, just do not be so quick to judge a persons character or soul based on a few mistakes. the ultimate point here is that everyone agrees that Crobi needs to get out.

not saying to break up with him but it sure seems like he's using you from a out side perspective especially if he has a job and still asks you to pay for all that he asks you to. think long and hard before you do anything but in the end everyone usually understands what the wise thing to do is they are just split at least in this case because you care about the person. all the majority of us are saying I think is don't let him take advantage of you and at least for me true gentlemen try to offer to pay for there date as opposed to the asking them to pay for it and when ever I've driven a girl to on a date I really don't ask for gas money that just seems down right cheap. :/