Uhm.... What? Need some advice.

Dump him hun, he is just using you and you don't deserve that. Especially if you don't have a fixed income, yet he has a job! Makes me mad when people do that to others.

I don't like to get down on a person for not having a lot of money, but this guy sounds like a total bum. He has a job and should be buying YOU things. I guess the man always paying on dates isn't neccesarily the norm now, but even so this guy sounds like he is taking advantage of you. Spoiling a lady doesn't always require money. It has a lot more to do with how a guy treats his gal than it does with buying stuff. Broke or not, he could spoil you just fine if he wanted to. I agree with the others, drop him.

hecka sketchy. I'd be on guard and don't buy him anything unreasonable honestly it should be a good fair amount of trade between you 2 relationships are 2 way streets. It has to be even and fair everyone should be on the same playing field in it not that it's a game. Not to mention it's only been a month I'd be like are you serious. I had a bad experience giving someone a bunch of stuff and not getting anything in return not even in like a feeling that she appreciated it or that she was digging me more. Be careful is my advice not to mention he hasn't been on here in hecka days. I'll restate I think it's ok if maybe you offered to pay for your movie ticket or dinner some time would be a nice treat but as a gentleman I feel the guy should always at least offer a couple times to pay for most things. At least on dates and what not. DON'T GET USED YOUR TO COOL TO GET USED! XD

it's a little short on details to really understand the full picture, but if you guys are JUST meeting and getting together and he's like this, then I might steer clear of it as well. As far as not seeing you much, it could be because he's just really shy and doesnt think he's good enough for you? I could relate to something like that, but then again if he was that shy im not sure he'd be asking you to buy him laptops and stuff. more details perhaps? hard to say Crobi. I know everyone wants to just say dump him flat, and im inclined to agree, i guess it depends how you really feel about him. also, I think we should avoid personal attacks on the guy, calling him a worthless bum or saying he has no worth as a man is condescending and totally out of place for any one of us to judge. let's be more mature people.

The way I see it. If the man is poor or just starting out is one thing. But to not have pride as a man and ask a potential romance to buy unnecessary things without regard of ruining the relationship. That only says he is either trying to toy with you and use you. Or even so it would mean he is not ready nor capable of being their for you or anyone. What kind of worth of a man would that be? Is it even worth bothering with someone like that. Just stay away, is my suggestion. He needs to wise up before trying to bring someone else in his life. One thing is sticking with someone you been with for a long time during the hard times. But in your case there has been no time to develop a bond. On top of that he jeopardize the beginning of your relationship by asking for material things. Some one like that is among the worst.

Agree with ChibiSoul for the most part. This situation does seem a bit off to me. What he's doing is pretty rude. Not to mention, laptops are hella expensive for some people. I can barely afford one for myself. I would never ask my friend or significant other to pay for something like that. Ever. I feel bad when they pay for gas. It simply doesn't seem like he's putting any effort in.

@ ChibiSoul -- He's really not shy, he seemed like it at first, but in fact, I was the shy one outside of exchanged text messages and forums. I like to observe before getting involved. We had a date he asked me to pay for gas, and a game for him, and in change he said he'd pay for dinner. I though that was a fair trade. But then he started asking me to buy him Steam games, he'd ask me out, and he ask me for money each time to pay for gas, but one time he used my money infront of me to buy himself something that he could've waited for. A charger for his paintball gun. Never once have I asked him to give me money or buy me something, in fact, I've just mention that the things I want 'I'll buy eventually', because I will. @EmmieMae -- It seemed a bit off to me too when I first started seeing some signs. I mean, he has a job, I hardly have a job, I do commissions, and that don't pay well sometimes. I got my laptop with the money from a student loan. I just, I know what I want to do, which is call everything off, but it's just... I really don't know all at the same time.

lyson- because you're making character accusations about another human being whom you don't know outside of an isolated context involving another persons experience/relationship with them. there is no need to trash the guy's personal worth, it only makes you look foolish. that's all I'm saying. Crobi, given the pattern I would definitely have a serious talk with him, ask him what he wants out of this relationship, evaluate what you want as well, and tell him you're not here to be used and that you're feeling that way. give him a chance to make things right, and if he doesn't want to, or continues being insensitive, then you can more easily do the right thing for yourself and feel good about the result. :)