Falling for Best Friend

Has anyone ever fallen for their best Friend? I think I am Falling for my Best Friend and i don't know if i should tell her.. Thoughts?

i have never dealt with this issue but i have some ideas. you could just tell her straight out. tell her you hope it doesnt change anything but that u wanted to let her know. just an idea

OH OH OH! I fell for mine. It took me a LONG time to tell her. Sadly though, she couldn't return the feelings. /sadface. BUT DON'T LET THAT STOP YOU!!! I really did love her and the fact that she couldn't accept it did depress me. To be honest though, I don't regret telling her. I felt much better after some time. Her and I are still best friends, and in some ways even closer. I much more open about everything with her. You have to take that leap though. It's too hard on yourself and strains your relationship with your friend to keep it a secret. The absolute worth thing that could happen is that she says no. Make sure you say it confidence too. No girl likes a half assed confession. Get some coffee or something with her so that you guys are in a one on one situation and break it down for her. Talk to her about whatever, reminisce about a funny time you shared together, and when she's laughing, look her in the eyes and say something along the lines of "Hey _____(her name), we've been friends for ______(days,months,or years) now right? [pause for her to verify] Well I want to let you know that at some point during that time, I've fallen head over heels for you. Would you consider taking our friendship to that next level?" Regardless of what she says after, smile and never lose your composure. If you break, this entire scenario breaks, and a lot of awkward shit will go down. You staying composed will help her feel at ease and would possibly generate a better response. If she says yes, congratulations. If she says no, keep your smile and respond with an "Alright, thanks for hearing that out though. I've been wanting to get that off my chest for a while now." Then continue on with whatever else you guys had planned for the day. If she decides respond with a omg-eww-you're-the-worst-and-you-suck attitude, then you are better off dropping the friendship and any feelings you had for her. Hopefully this helped, good luck bro

be careful man, I fell for my best friend. But it did something to our friendship. And changed us... no matter how many times we tried to regain that sense of togetherness it was too awkward for us and well,.. we drifted. It's been 10 years since i've seen her.

Its a slippery slope, and my first questions to you would be the following. 1. Do you think she feels the same, or are you wanting to just express your love to her, not knowing remotely how she feels? 2. If you think she doesnt, but are hoping maybe that she would give it a shot anyways, do you think either of you can be the same if it doesnt work out? If not, then is it worth it, possibly losing her as a friend? Only you can answer that. I've had all the scenarios. One that did like me also, and we dated for a bit and were still friends after we broke up. One where she did not feel the same way, but after I expressed my feelings and got it off my heart, I was able to move on and we are still friends. And the one we all dread, she didnt feel the same way, and things were never the same and we drifted apart. Time heals all wounds, the one that drifted away, hurt a little when she stopped talking to me and us having our normal talks, but well I kind of chalk it up now, that it just wasnt meant to be either way. Good luck with your decision, its not an easy one, and well it is scary.

Ahhh I've had the perils of falling in love with straight best friends before- it sucked but eventually I drifted from those people. Though recently a male friend confessed to me... It was awkward... It is awkward... Before you confess: prepare yourself for what may or may not follow. If you get a hint that she likes you also, I say go for it. Best of luck!

Don't do it. It's the easiest way to ruin a friendship. What hurts more than rejection is knowing that they like you, but don't feel the same way that you feel about them. If you still wanna take a shot, flirt with them. See if they respond.

1. Don't worry about the outcome of your friendship. If she decides to respond with the "fuck off" attitude, then you guys were never really "best friends". If she is a real friend, one of two things will happen: you confess and she accepts willingly, or you confess and she rejects you softly. IT WILL BE FREAKING AWKWARD AFTER, but real friends would return to normal and the superficial ones would be weeded out. 2. Its not about you getting or not getting hurt. It is natural to be afraid of rejection, but being a man is about overcoming your fears. Being a man means you can handle pain and not let it get the best of you. You should be straightforward and not be scared of your own feelings and their consequences. You can't look back at your life and ask yourself "What if I told her?" You'll be setting yourself up for a cowardly life filled with regrets if you can't come face to face with your own feelings. I meant for this to be a brash as possible to contrast all of the responses that lack the resolve required to go from being friends to being something more. I apologize if I offended anyone, I just believe that going through life with the half-assedly can only lead to a mountain of regrets. I can understand being afraid of the man pointing a gun at your head, but I just can't understand being afraid of ones own feelings, which can only cause intangible damage, and the only thing required to recover from that damage is a strong will.

Well everyone thanks for the support!

it's happened to me a couple times but at least for me it's usually because as dude I have a lot more girls who are my friend then guys for some reason or at least I use to. I'm not sure anymore but the fact that I had a lot more girl friends then bros to hang with meant that naturally my best friend was usually a girl and I've always been brought up with the notion that in a relationship your girl friend should be your best friend as well. I still believe that is true but I think there should probably be some romantic feelings on both sides for anything to come of it. In any relationship I've seen change from friends to dating the people always flirted a before as best friends anyways and usually their friends already knew that the 2 people had romantic interest in each other. My best advice for you is to observe what she does and how she acts around you (does she:flirt with you lean on you laugh a lot around you intentionally try and get your attention when someone else is talking to you etc.) if you see these things she may be into you. I would also ask one of your good guy friends to hang out with you and her a couple times and have him tell you what he sees cuzz generally if you like someone your brain starts thinking things are going on that are not and a outside opinion can judge better if she is flirting or not usually. What ever you decide be cool man. good luck with what ever you decide I'm sure we are all rooting for you.