Your a Virgin but he/she isnt.

As many have said before me a persons sexual history should not matter as long as they are disease-free. A persons past came first and its called the past for a reason. Its gone done and over with and there isnt anything anyone can do to change it. I think people should just look into who the person is and not look for their past otherwise you could very well let a good relationship opportunity pass you by and for what because they arent a virgin anymore? Ask yourself is it worth it?

When I was younger it bothered me but as I've gotten older it doesn't feel like a big deal. I think we develop this idea that who you sleep with leaves a 'mark' on you but that is silly. If you love each other that is much stronger then previously being with someone else. To me, virginity in a general sense is kind of outdated. I do believe someone should have self respect for themselves and also the term is good for someone who just hasn't done it but the myths around it are just shallow. Love, companionship, and getting along are the core, sex is just a piece of the relationship.

As long as they respect your sexual decisions during the relationship and don't try to pressure you into doing something you're not ready for; I don't see the problem.

to be honest, Ive been in this situation. and it doesn't matter only thing that matters is if the non virgin partner is willing to respect you're choices. .-. if they wanna push you into sex or make you feel bad about not having sex yet when you're not ready, tell them to fuck off because nobody deserve that :T