Fell for a lesbian

Now I have to say that this has probably been my BIGGEST failure in my relationship history... I fell for an underage lesbian.... Now, that said, it hasn't been all bad. She's been my best friend for the past two years now and we've been really close. People (aka the con folk) have called us a really cute "Not-couple". and to be honest I enjoy pretty much every minute I spend with her. even once I found out she swung for my team, I still supported and loved her(at the time as a friend). i mean really what else would i do, just ditching her because of that is a bitch move and i'm not one to lose a friendship over petty details. although as we move further along in time, i spend more time with her, and i learn more and more about her, i just couldn't help falling for her. I know the obvious thing to do is just kinda get over it.... i probably didn't even need to post here... but i felt as though obtaining outside opinions on this may help me feel a bit better. or worse.... dunno...

well, I know what that situation feels like... Anyway if she is still young there is quite a chance she will swing in both directions, few young homosexuals are as dedicated to their sexuality as they believe themselves to be. never forget that young people love trends, and will do almost anything to seem unique or different, give it a few more years and you may just get lucky ^^

Hikkikimori has a point, still is a good thing you posted. I need someone to talk to about something similar. My girl friend is bi. She is under age at the moment but she won't be this year. How were you planning to work around that. I have mix feelings about it. But now we are really close. I am looking for opinions.

I dont see any problems at all there, except the underage thing, again depending on oppinion. If she is your girlfriend by her own free choice, then i dont see any reason to worry, except maybe about how her parents take it, again IMHO the whole Pedo-scare is somewhat exagerated and ridiculous.

I have to agree with you there. You know I asked her to be brave and tell her parents. She told me to drop it for the second time. I mean she's almost 18 come on is not like you can really punish a girl that old. I actually like to talk to her parents. I have other reasons to do it.

Maybe there is some religious reason, have you met the parents at all? Maybe her dad is a "the inlaws" type maniac who'd rip you a new one if you didnt treat his little girl right... when i was 24 i dated a girl that was 17, her mom was super ok with it. most of the time parents dont like me though, somehow i cant shake that punk vibe i picked up in my youth. Then again I live in denmark so, the religious barriers and TV-induced fear monegering, dont really cause as much of a problem as i'd imagine it to do in the states. for instance, that 17 year old girl, she was jewish, and my first GF was catholic, me being an atheist I'd have imagined more resistance from their parents, but nope, the religious parents liked me, while all the hoity toity atheists had their heads up their own academic asses, feeling so smug about themselves, that a poor drunk anarchistic rebel couldnt catch a break xP

While I applaud you gentlemen for your openness and gentleness, there is a reason for the term 'jailbait' and what I mean by that is...be careful how you go about having relationships with someone who isn't legal yet. All individuals in all relationships are different, so it's not my place to judge someone for robbing the cradle but it's not far from the truth that if something misfortunate were to happen to your partner, the general population might not take such a light-hearted shine on you. Bottom line if you ask me, a responsible relationship between me and a girl that I am 5+ years the senior at best would be in the role of guardian and mentor. In the words of the Jedi, 'Your attachment to your padawan, dangerous I find.' My two cents for what it's worth! Sorry if it doesn't help you in your case.

It does I consider that role more so than the one I am now in. On a good note I am out og her reach at the moment. So nothing unfortunate can happen. We won't meet for a year or too. In that time she can change her mind. I am cautious individual. But I am never falling for something like this again. That's for sure. Whether it works out or not.

stay as friends... if she comes of age and/or changes her mind you'll still be there for her. and she may notice it.