Trouble Help onigaishimasu

LOL ^ I get your point though. There's just a gravity of telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth to semi-sugar coated truth. I think "you're just not my type" would cut it but to me that would still hurt and damage my self-esteem I guess. To me I think being rejected once no matter how you put it is enough to bring me shame and despair that I'd feel ashamed by the mere thought of you. Unless I'm overly attached girlfriend who would see the all positivity in things to still have hope lingering even after blatant rejection, I think once is enough XD Just say it with a straight face so they don't think you're joking. So no worries on false hope. IF there is any, then by all means, crush her to the core.

Girls and Guys... In the end we're all the same :P

I always just say, "I'm flattered, but I'm not interested." clean and cut.

"My apologies, at this point in time, I'm not looking/ready for that kind of relationship." Keeps the current relationship with said person intact. No rejection to the other party and places the control wheel on your hands. In a sense, you are placing the blame on external/internal factors instead of the person.

See, it's gotten to the point that my "acceptance" turns in to an apathetic "mhm" with no facial expression. Like I'm not necessarily annoyed, but it's getting like I have another responsibility. I built up the reputation of rejecting almost no one so if I start, I don't want people to worry for me without need. Also, I don't like it when druggies ask for a date either. I've only been asked 19 times, so it's not like it's draining all my free time, but I've only asked two people myself. I just want to be the one to pick who I want. I also feel like I have two personalities. I'm extremely blunt when it comes to judging someone's work or thoughts, but when it comes to something more emotional, I can't.....

I'm gonna be honest here, you sound like a total asshat right now lol. "Only" been asked out 19 times. [i]only[/i] Why does it have to be a responsibility? These girls come up to you and ask you out with all their courage, and then you go off saying it feels like a "responsibility" to reject them. Come on, boy. If you don't want to go out with them, just say you're flattered but refuse, don't be like "AW MAN, LOOK AT THESE GIRLS THEY'RE ALL OVER ME"

On the other hand though, having a reputation of rejecting almost no one may give the false impression that you are a push-over when it comes to relationships. There are a few ways of refusing someone aside from saying 'no': 1) Blame on external factors (not something I would do especially if it's false) such as "I've no time for relationships so even if I want to, I can't." 2) The "You deserve someone better than me" card (very subtle way of rejecting. I knew a few female friends who used said excuse when rejecting someone. Then again, they are Japanese so the context might be a bit different.) 3) Any variance of "thank you for your appreciation but I'm too busy/not ready for a relationship now" 4) Friendzone. Personally don't like this but..'nuff said. Hope they partially answer your questions/worries at least?

It's roll or get rolled sometimes. cielle +1 that's a great way to go about it. If they press you why; hunting for the excuse, restate same thing without details and go to closed body language. Take a step back closed arms and flat eyebrows not brooding. You can reject someone without being a complete dick to them unless they are excessively persistent. Then it is perfectly ok to turn on some cold. If you are not interested you are not interested, if you are too busy you are too busy. If they can not respect that they don't meet the minimum requirements for friends let alone romantic interests. If you do not respect yourself and make it known you accept disrespect then soon you will find that is all you get. Respect the respectable who deserve it, it is earned. Something given frivolously has no value. Good luck.