Trouble Help onigaishimasu

      Sunbae @alanzd
        
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    Sunbae @alanzd
    So I've always had this problem. I have trouble rejecting people. I've always lived by the rule: respect someone until they give you a reason not to. So by doing so, I give almost everyone a chance as long as they are female, even if they are 100% not my taste. I don't like this and I've been getting better at rejecting people, but by following my own righteous morals, I feel like people think I have low standards or that I'm "easy." I give people one small date, it could be lunch time a school or something, not straight up going out. I've really only been on 2 "real" relationships. I just want advice on how I can change my mentality without completely crushing my pride
  
      hillboy27 @hillboy27
        
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    hillboy27 @hillboy27
    So you are trying to find a better way to reject girls that are not your taste? I'm afraid I don't quite understand.
  
      Sunbae @alanzd
        
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    Sunbae @alanzd
    Basically reject anyone. It's hard to do since I kind of built up a reputation of basically rejecting no one. If I start now, they might think I am joking or I am going through some depression which I am not. Basically, I set myself up for failure on this one >.<
  
      Key @key17
        
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    Key @key17
    'respect someone until they give you a reason not to'
That's something I also live by. But you need to remember that respect starts with oneself.
It's cool that you're ready to give everyone a chance, but remember that your girl is gonna be with you for the rest of your life (hopefully of course), your entitled to be picky.
Rejecting someone isn't disrespectful.
  
      hillboy27 @hillboy27
        
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    hillboy27 @hillboy27
    You just got to say you're not interested. Everyone reacts differently to it. Some may call you an asshole, some may still want to be friends. Like key said, you have the right to be picky.
Hope this helps.
  
      Sunbae @alanzd
        
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    Sunbae @alanzd
    Now I feel unnecessary pressure. Alright, thank you so much for the advice. I'll just replay that in my head. My right to be an asshole
  
      fatzilla @jineko
        
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    fatzilla @jineko
    just apologize politely make up some excuse and give the girl time to grieve and be ashamed(but no worries, that's the risk she took upon confession) ;P 
  
      Key @key17
        
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    Key @key17
    @jineko 
wouldn't cutting to the chase and telling her the truth be better than just coming up with a lie?
False hope is quite hurtful. For both sides of the spectrum.
  
      fatzilla @jineko
        
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    fatzilla @jineko
    eeeeeeeeeeeee but that would hurt. like if you don't want her cause she's too fat. you can't just blatantly say "can't go out with you, fattie"
Sometimes sugarcoating things like "Sorry I already have my eyes set on one girl" or the usual "I'm not ready to date" or whatever would be less painful for the girl, you know? 
  
      Key @key17
        
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    Key @key17
    I didn't mean 'THAT' 8|
I think it's better to just tell it as it is rather than leave the girl with the lingering hope that would never materialize into anything.
But I guess you'd know better since your an XX and all.
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