So many "Why no Otaku Girl" Post

I am not exclusively looking for someone who likes anime, dont get me wrong. My problem isn't finding otaku girls. My problem is finding girls who: - Interested in the opposite sex - Can argue without taking things to heart (I mean like debate arguing, not fighting) - Can at least accept that I and others have different view points (but do not have to agree) - Is not heavily involved in Feminism, gay rights preacher, or any kind of 'social' issues. (we could have a whole discussion on this, but I am just going to say no. I am in perfect support of leaving those alone that want to go down this route, but leave me out. k?) - Does not need to smoke/drink to have a good time. - Willing to fill the role of a relationship that is give and take. If they cant meet halfway and I am stuck doing all the work, I wont even bother. - Able to accept and/or join in with the fact that I collect figures of cute girls who are mostly under age and watch anime weekly. Those last 2 points are the real killer for me to find. That is not to say its impossible. There are plenty of cases where people have found non-otaku girls and turned them to the dark side. Its just not as common as it sounds or that easy in certain parts of the world. Like, take where I live. I live in an area that is big on sports, factory jobs, and Alcohol (There are more bars than there are McDonalds!. In fact, within a 2.5 mile radius there are 4 McDonalds and around 15 bars). And I live in the suburbs! So its not quite that simple for some of us. PS: I don't mean the term normal. you know what i meant!

From my experience: - Still very young or are minors. Many girls even joining this site are still well south of 21. - Already in a relationship - Aren't interested in dating due to being to busy with school/life - Are gay or bisexual with a preference for women The only time I even see an even number of guy to girl otaku ratios are usually at conventions, and let's be honest, most girls who go aren't looking for a bf. If you've ever checked out a speed dating event at an anime con, even then it's at best two to one guys to girls. For me it's not been lack of effort but just bad luck in general. I'll meet a new girl and she'll either have a bf, be to young, or just aren't interested in dating me or at all in general. That's why you see a lot of those kinds of posts on here.

It's true that as a man I always feel like every single women my age is token/not looking for relationships. I would feel that people come online and ask that to just let off a bit of steam and frustration built up from looking to no avail.I am no exception to this, I do mine in humor that only I find entertaining. My favorite thing people always say is Love will find you when you don't look/want it, I'd like to test this, But if there is anything I know after my 23 years.. no matter how much I dislike humanity, I can't help but hope for someone to just give me a bit of light and meaning. /Scattered Ideas

Part of it as well, or at least for this site, is that it's difficult to "find" many users or users near you, if they don't participate in the forums because the site could still use some work in the "searching area". In that sense the number of females in the forums or "known world" if you choose to say *at least the known world for maiotaku* is drastically few. Let alone the case of "Oh I finally found someone near me! Only to find out they haven't logged in, in over a month.*

I feel as if I should explain the no otaku girl stigma on the internet and in real life. Skipping the basics that have been covered, it's generally due to two factors: interests, and behaviors. Generally speaking, otaku girls visit very different places in the internet than guys. For example, a lot of guys who love visual novels might go to Fuwanovel and join that community; but the ladies aren't as common on there because they don't generally like visual novels as much as guys do. To fulfill their literary fulfillment in the anime world, you'll see a lot more females role playing on sites such as those hosted by IF and proboards; also MMOs like IMVU have far more females than males because it panders to their interests a bit more than men's. Otaku girls exist on the internet, you guys just don't know where to look for them. Now real life: let me ask you something...do you fellas really go out all that much? Most otakus aren't too sociable--though there are plenty of exceptions. It's rare to find otaku girls in the real world because they don't go outside too much. I mean, if you go to places where they're more likely to visit then you will find them, yes. Examples: college campuses, high school video game/anime clubs, etc. But finding one at a park isn't likely. So again, it isn't as if otaku girls don't exist, you just need to know where to look for them. It's actually somewhat the same issue for Otaku girls finding Otaku guys, believe it or not! :D Oh, and one more thing about the "no girl fits my wants" comment: those are always hard to find, otaku or not. Just be patient ^^

Well said Sakuma! My problem is that most otaku girls are pretty shy and so when I approach them with my gregarious and confident personality they often become intimidated and uninterested.

As a biological woman, reading this is hurts. Yes I am a transboy, but that's only because My past interactions with dating sites and irl dating. I however do have a clause that I made for myself before I transition: if the man I love can convince me not to transition then I wont, otherwise I am.

I have no preference honestly. If they like anime and games and such that's awesome, if not, that's fine too. They have there things they like and I have mine, can't really change those.