What went wrong in a past relationship?

About 10 years back I dated a guy for 2 years, he turned out to be gay. For those two years though, I didn't know. He never touched me and it made me feel repulsive, but I was too shy to say anything. With this one, I learned that honesty and communication is key. You have to be honest with yourself and the things you want in life, because if you're not, you'll end up hurting yourself and the person you're with. And if you want something, speak up, nothing will change if you don't voice what you want. Even if things don't change, your intentions will be clear and you can figure out if this person is worth it or not. The one that really got me was my ex that changed herself. I had the most beautiful girlfriend, she was so intelligent and had a goal in life. Every conversation with her was so stimulating, it was the most amazing thing, I loved it. Then when I asked her out, she changed completely. She would dumb herself down and try to act like a cat-girl because she wanted to be cute but I found it repulsive and annoying. Our conversations changed from politics and science to bows, dresses, and cupcakes. She changed from being a confident woman to someone who was so insecure and needy, and no matter how much I'd reassure her how beautiful and intelligent she already was and that she didn't need to dumb herself down, she'd continue to do it more and more each day. I'd never lied to her before but she thought I was lying to her then and she took my reassurance as critiques. Eventually we had to break up because my school schedule was hectic and the relationship was too fragile for the strain of it. With that relationship, I learned that it's important to have a partner that is confident and independent. I learned that if someone isn't confident within themselves they will drag you down and it's exhausting. Now, if a person doesn't exude confidence or independence, I don't even bother with them. A relationship is giving yourself to your partner and receiving your partner, and bettering yourself for your partner because you love them. In relationships like this, the only thing you receive is negativity while you're pushing out nothing but reassurance. These relationships are very fragile because all the love is being given instead of being shared equally, your focus is on the insecure instead of focusing on strengthening the bond.

eh, Theres honestly no telling whats going to go wrong in a relationship. For me it was more of a one sided thing, giving it 110% while the other person barely gave it 50. Not to mention after you date someone for awhile sometimes they start to change. o-o in my case they changed for the worse. Just find someone who isn't going to try and change you and who is going to meet you half way. Remember a compromise is sometimes in order and they should be willing to if actually would like to be with you. Its not like a relationship is going to be perfect in the first place, it is developed overtime but it requires you to work at it. Lol what I learned from my last relationship? People are extremely selfish (not like I didn't already know) but I believe most people to be that way now lulz.

They're just girls, you want a woman. I find nothing wrong with long distance relations if you can make it work, however, I personally believe that doing it from the start is a little risky. I'll be honest, I've had internet crushes, but I've never taken it past that. The reason for that is (and keep in mind that these are just my personal beliefs) relationships are fragile in the beginning. Those first few months of a relationship are months that you should spend time together to truly get to know one another. You know you have chemistry online, and of course a first meeting will be a little awkward, but you need time to let your bodies sync, to learn each other's body language, and to just know if you feel truly comfortable with that person. Those are the months where a woman needs to be "claimed", not through sex, but through physical bonding and learning that she can trust you when you're far away. If you want this girl as your friend, perfect. I just hope you know when or if you should stop the pursuit. Sometimes the fear of meeting can be too much for someone and they'll distance themselves, but if you're ready, just keep messaging. Who knows, maybe she's going through a rough time in life and that may be the reason she has been distant. If that's the case, it'd be nice to have a message from you waiting in her inbox and knowing she's been on your mind :) Second one, you know everything that went wrong there. Leave the baggage at the terminal and don't look back. It hurts to say goodbye, but it's worth it.

Nothing really went wrong with my past relationship. It was my first one. We dated for year, and we'll it was perfection. We both loved anime and video games and were overall the perfect couple. But then randomly he just stopped Talking to me. Never texted me, called, or even made contact with me in any way.

The last girl I liked was perfect, she could cook, clean, she was smart and funny and she was absolutely gorgeous. The fact that she liked anime and video games was just a bonus. She was my dream girl. Although, we would always argue because she didn't feel the same way I did. Eventually I got sick of it and I decided that I didn't like her any more and I stopped talking to her. Now I walk the lonely path of an otaku once again.

Ive only had one "girlfriend" before and i wouldn't even count it as a relationship, she said she only went out with me because she said she felt "sorry for me" i was just really lonely and she wanted to make me feel better, when in the end she just ended up hurting me, after that i just had a lot of trust issues with girls. what went wrong is that i was just so dum to think a girl like that would actually like me