would you date a porn addict

/rosie: I just never really understood why people cheat, unless they would come out with it directly after it happens. It's still not okay but at least they got the guts to say it straight in your face . I think that's probably one of the reasons I'm single. A lot of people tend to still find other people than you somewhat more interesting. Even if those are famous people it feels like you're not good enough for them. Some say I'm just quickly jealous but I think it's only normal. Say for example that I would be in a relationship with you and you would be fangirling over, idk not really familiar with like celebs and such .... uhm that channing tatum guy thing idk the name. I would probably think like I'm not good enough wich would probably mean that I would run around pissed on you all day long wich isn't really healthy for a relationship. I even feel that way about anime characters as well. If you would be fangirling over some guy from free! I would probably feel the same way. Wich would mostlikely end in a break-up.

It's understandable to feel jealous. But it's also natural to be a fan of someone famous or whatever...it's all really just a fantasy ideal in their head that no man can ever live up to. If they do it too much than that is an unhealthy sign, but a little bit is no big deal to me. Most girls don't like a guy that is too possessive or easily jealous.

I'm not blind while in a relationship. I still find other women attractive and she finds other men attractive. If I didn't want to be with her or her with me, we wouldn't be together simple as that. I could never be jealous of an unobtainable celebraty, it's just a fantasy. The only jealousy issues have been because of an ex, which is %100 fine to have an issue with under the circumstances of which I shall not explain. As for the porn addict thing... No. If you are addicted, that becomes more important than who you are with. I do still enjoy *ahem* " myself" from time to time, but it's not a need. Trust me, get into a relationship and you may still have to take care of business from time to time...meh...Such is life.;)

Guess I'll have to look for a girl who's exactly like me. I might be 'a fan' of things but never really of a person in specific. Because unlike others I know that looks don't mean shit. Wich means I don't really care about looks. I do say that a lot like that girl looks good or that guy looks good. As a compliment, it doesn't mean I find them attractive though. I have never really been attracted to a person because of their looks. Even as a kid I never really had like a crush on celebs or soemthing, never had an idol (someone I would love to be like or look up to). This sometimes causes problems though, since I'm a huge collector and I collect figures of animes that I like ... such as madoka. I don't really have a specific character of the show that I prefer over the other, I like Homura because for me the series about her, I like madoka cuz she becomes a goddess, I like Mami cuz she's sweet and gives of a warm feeling, I like Kyoko cuz she's kind of rebelous yet attend and Sayaka cuz I feel for her getting kind of betrayed by her own feelings. I also don't have an anime crush or waifu as some say. I find this just like any other crush on people you'll never be able to get, retarded, childish and overall stupid. Because of that I also don't have this specific image of how I want a girl to look. The only thing I care about looks is that she takes care of herself so she doesn't look like a hobo. That's why I feel that it might be better for me to stay alone instead of being with someone I'll probably hate. My sis's bf told me something about this as well, he says that I need to look at all the positives and negatives of a person and look at what he/she has the most of. But the problem is, if a person has something negative for me, I will hate that person. Doesn't matter how much he/she has that's good about him/her, one thing that isn't good and it's done. Over and out, it's not something I do on purpose but I just feel that way. I always felt like if you go in a relationship with someone you're like property to that other person. It might sound harsh but that's how I feel. If I ever have a gf/bf he/she won't ever have to be afraid that I'll leave her/him or cheat, because he/she would be the only one that matters and for me I should be that for him/her as well. That's the reason why peeps cheat, get hurt they don't see eachother as that, they just see them as another person who they do more with than with friends. They just can't be loyal anymore >.> and so far the ranting XD

So...You do care about looks. What defines looking like a "hobo" to you, may he a god/goddess for another. Things like that are still subjective. Would you ever call the person that you love, sexy? If there is absolutely no physical attraction, all you have is a good friend no matter how much you like their personality. I fully agree that a good mind trumps a good body, but there has to be some form of physical attraction. Its no beung shallow, we are born to breed and as such we look for certain physical traits AND mental traits. I just hate hearing someone say they dont go on looks at all. If that were true, it wouldn't be hard to find someone.

WHAT !!! exclamation markssss So you say if I don't go with looks at all it's easy to find someone ... I don't think you know me than I mean everyone I've met looking beautiful or not has had some terrible fricking personality. I've had this talk with someone before, I don't need a girl/guy that I love, I need one that loves me. With this I'll make a confession: I have fallen in love before, weirdly enough. With someone over the internet wich was even weirder at that moment. I had seen her on pics and such, wasn't really into her. Her looks weren't even close to what I thought that I liked. However we talked a lot and became good friends. But more and more we just grew closer towards eachother, right up until the moment that we just couldn't go without talking with eachother. She was still going to school(was my age though) and I was working at the time and with the huge time difference we had lil time to talk. But we managed to talk when I woke up right before she went to sleep and when I got home and before I went to bed , right when she woke up. Eventually that was also what tore us apart and we kind of broke up (even though we didn't really had much to go forth on). Even now her looks still don't appeal to me (she was also a fangirl so that annoyed me bunches but I tried to ignore most of it) but almost everyday I think about her and how nice it would be if we would've met and spent some time together, at least once. So what was it that made me fall in love with her ... She was there for me, she loved me and damn she even fangirled over me. Even though she wasn't physacly here, she always stood behind me and believed in me. Asked for my oppinion and understood me. But even she, just like everyone else, started to hate things about me. The way I was confident about myself yet broke apart so easily. The way I manipulated her (wich wasn't on purpose), the way I worked myself so much into her head that whatever I said was what she would do and believe. Again that wasn't on purpose. But I still know what she said to me before we both went our own way, "I love you, I hope you don't forget it. But I can't go on like this. I will always love you. Nighty nite" (the nighty nite was my way to say goodnight to people and it became a habit). So tell me again how looks decide so ... O so very much ? O.O

Did I say or even imply " looks decide so very, very much"? All I said or implied is, that they play a part in attraction. You yourself said "The only thing I care about looks is that she takes care of herself so she doesn't look like a hobo. ". Are you going to say after saying that, looks don't play a part? You seem to have confused what I said as being superficial, but it's not in any way shape or form. So, what does any of this have to do with an internet fling? People build up false personas of what they want all the time online, it's kind of hard to really understand a person via a screen. I'm sure you're a special snowflake just as I am. Also, you kind of answered a question that you did not ask. In other words, it might not be other people's fault that you can't seem to find someone like you. Everyone finds things to hate about another, even in a relationship, but its overcoming those obstacles and loving despite those things that makes the difference.Also, love is a two way street atleast in relationships it is. Now, I don't mean to be critical, only to make you think.

My comment is kind of a response to this: " I just hate hearing someone say they dont go on looks at all. If that were true, it wouldn't be hard to find someone." For me that sounds like if I wouldn't care about someone's looks I would have already have someone. I reacted to that ...