What do guys look for in a girl?

So I've been single for a while, like a loooong while lol. Not complaining though because honestly, the single life is quite satisfying. The only problem is that I get lonely sometimes when I see my friends with their significant others. Deep inside, I long for a companion, a best friend. Someone to talk to about silly or serious things, to hold, to kiss, to hang out, to joke around, to laugh, to smile, to cry, to spoon feed me my favorite ice cream, to debate which animes are better than other, and all that other good stuff. ^_^ Well, like I said I've been single for quite some time and I've only ever had 3 boyfriends before. None lasted very long because I dated a psychopath, a liar, and a quitter. Not saying they are the sole reasons why it didn't work out, because it takes two people to make a relationship work but I guess it just wasn't meant to be. Anyway, I feel like I'm very inexperienced and have no idea exactly what a guy wants in a girl. I don't exactly find myself extremely attractive. I get insecure at times but that's because of personal reasons. I am pretty much sensitive a.k.a its easy to make me cry. And I'm pretty much a weirdo! ^o^ But overall, I'm a really cool person. I'm fun, I can be funny at times, and I'm very kind. When I care about someone, I will do just about anything to make them happy. When I love, I love hard. I don't know if these are things guys look for in a girl and I just want to know exactly what do guys expect of a girl when getting to know her, and while in a relationship. :) Any responses would be appreciated!

Another good and popular question that is difficult to answer because like most things it changes person to person. What one guy wants in a girl isn't always going to be what another guy wants in a girl. Something that might help is to work on your insecurities. A person who comes off as insecure when you meet them is unattractive. Your insecurities are something that should come to light when you have met somebody and the relationship is getting a bit more serious and you both know each other pretty well. Besides, a lot of insecurities can be addressed and turned into strengths. For example, women who are active, driven and goal oriented are extremely attractive to me. When I see a women who is dedicated to a goal, whether it be furthering her career, improving her health/fitness, learning to play piano, traveling to dream destinations, etc...I see her putting in the time and effort and focus, it gets me excited, it makes me want a relationship with her because I know she is going to do great things and go to great places and I want to hop on that train because I know it would be a successful and fulfilling life with somebody like that. And these women want fall for you too hard, too fast (which isn't attractive) because they are strong and focused on their goals (which is attractive). That's just me so that information is pretty much useless :P But seriously, from what I've read and seen on your profile, you are a kind and attractive young women. The only thing I can think of as a reason you don't have men trying to kick down the damn door to come talk to you is: your insecurities may be shining through or more than likely, you aren't putting yourself out there. And by putting yourself out there I mean, you're not out in a social environment enough, you're not at the gym, at concerts, clubs, things like that. You just need to get out and be active and focus on having a good time, cause if men see you having a good time they're going to want to talk to you. All of this is just advice and my own opinion, which honestly isn't worth Jack but I thought I'd share :P

Personally I look for someone that I can be silly and random with. A great personality and someone that would be competitive with me and compassionate as well. When physically I look, its eyes. Eyes are my downfall, but body type I'm not picky I do prefer a woman that has real shapely figure and not a model or skeleton. Really if you have confidence that you look beautiful and you carry yourself that I'm sold.

@wingeater, your advice is worth something! Thanks for your opinion! I really appreciate it! But as for my insecurities, I've learned recently that everyone has them, so I decided to just state it in this post. When a guy approaches me, I don't open up until I get to know him. It takes a while because I don't exactly like speaking of it. I would say I do come off shy though but that's just cause I am pretty shy when I don't know a person. ^_^ And I believe I put myself out there so I don't think it's that either. I'm kind of a gym fanatic. I work out all the time, well I use to. I recently stopped going to the gym about a month ago. Clubs aren't really my thing so I don't really go there. But the spot to be where I'm from is the beach and I'm there like almost every week lol. And now that I think of it, I live on a small island where everyone either knows everyone or knows of everyone. And I don't think I like that too much. I want to meet new people and all I see everyday are people that I see all the time. I guess I need a change of scenery. I am moving to Florida in a few days so I'll see how it goes. I'm not looking for someone but if someone does find me then that would be great lol. @Dragonrage thank you for your opinion as well. :)

For me, someone who can except me as a gamer and has similar interests. Someone who has at least some goals in life or are trying to work towards bettering themselves. Unfortunately since I'm older, it's kinda become harder to find. Most women around my age don't want to date a guy such as myself, and that's assuming they don't already have kids or a lot of emotional baggage. I like going to cons, but being 33, I'm lucky if I can meet new people who are over 21 there. Most girls thbere are way to young to realistically consider dating.

Interesting thread. I've been wondering the same thing. I've been single too since college. It's nice to see the preferences of men. :3

Take your time as well. Don't rush into a relationship due to loneliness it can lead to some pretty harsh heartbreaks:s Find a person that shares similar interests and accepts you for you. Every relationship is work so definitely find someone worth fighting for and make sure you accept them for who they are as well:) I'm sure you will find someone who will make you very happy:) What i look for in a girl is she has to be open minded, kind, accepting and goal oriented. Liking anime is a big plus in my books as well:p

@Cecil, you'll find a good girl one day :) But age shouldn't matter though. Well, it does if she's not legal. But if she is then you should go for it. Some women are very mature for their age and I'm sure some don't mind dating older men. @Chrisma, yes I've been wondering for too long as well and just decided to be brave and make this post. Lol. I just wanted some insight on what guys look for in women. Everyone will have different opinions because not every guy is the same but I still wanted to get into the mind of a guy. ^^ @sameraiguy, yes rushing isn't something to do with relationships. I did that before and got heartbroken before the relationship even started.

By nature there are 3 types of guys when it comes to relationships: 1) the guy who wants the female to yield to his thoughts and feelings; to consider him before making any decisions (Man-Lead Relationship) 2) the guy who wants the female to provide some sort of chase; to make him exert his competitiveness and prove he's the right choice (Equal Relationship) 3) the guy who wants the female to make the first move; to state what's on her mind and what she wants before he does anything (Female-Lead Relationship) . . . Now once the relationship is formed its all about attitude. People's attitudes toward the things and people they desire tend to change once they're obtained. This really isn't a thing of good or bad. Like everyone else agrees, it all depends on the person if it works out or not. Good Luck! Hope I was of some help