How to avoid looking for someone "perfect"

I really don't want to seem like I'm flooding this forum D: I just kinda have a itch on my mind that needs to be scratch, or possibly cut and ripped out of my mind. <br /><br /> So if your like me, and you've had some rather early experiences with sex and relationships. How do I shake the feeling of others needing to be as perfect or even more perfect then my first. Granted I was only 13 when I had my first encounter and it was only slightly bad in the sense that it only lasted one day >.>;; But ever since then I haven't really ever been able to look at someone as a partner and not just "OMG ORGY PLZ!!!" I can't get past their looks if I don't like something about them, I can't get past having to ask if their a top or bottom, I can't get past wanting to only think about them with lust. I mean how do I get past these feelings? I know many of you might not be gay, but I know this is kinda rude to say but I know that with gay men looks can mean everything to a lot of them. Or at least with 99.9% of the gay men I have gotten to know.

Well I think you have to keep your standards high! After all you don't want to end up with someone you end up not liking at all~ And well lust is a normal part of relationships so long as the love and company of the person outweighs the lust~! Eventually when you find the right person I think you'll know. but that'll take some looking~!

Those looks eventually will also fade with age. That person is not always going to look beautiful. You got to love the person for who they are and for their faults. I'm also looking for good looks and I don't want to settle for less, but I'm also aware that sometimes one has to look past looks to see what is truly beautiful. AKA Beauty and the Beast. heh

I find some of those threads more insightful than the ones we have right now