So, to be successful in obtaining a relationship, one must have looks and a personality?

this is based on somethings I had read on this sight and others, your physical features and personality do play a major role in getting into a relationship with a person you like... because right now I feel like I have to live up to the expectations of people I don't even know, but don't worry I'm not actually concerned about the opinions that come from others about my looks or personality, Its just that I had the need to question this, since its been on my mind for a while

Well, yes and no. You don't have to be attractive in the eyes of society, but in the eyes of your interest. Because if there is no sexual attraction between the two, then you can't really have sexual intimacy beyond a certain point... and having a personality again, only means one that your potential partner wants. Every person is different in who they think is attractive and who has an "ideal" personality. My two closest female friends and I have no interest in any of the same guys in both personality and looks. Me- I like guys that are bigger than me, race really isn't a factor, but I have to find their face attractive. I also want to be able to banter with them, as well as play video games and watch anime with. My roommate- She thinks black men are gorgeous. But mainly, she likes guys that are 6ft2 and taller, and skinny as can be. She likes them on the douchey side, but is fine with watching movies with her and cuddling. Our friend- Her "type" is Asian. She's obsessed with all things Korean. She wants to be able to call her boyfriend adorable, and likes them on the pretty side. As for personality? She just wants a guy that she can talk to. That's it. So three girls with three completely different expectations with their men. So like guys, no two girls are the same when it comes to who they want. Essentially, you'll find a girl that will think you're hot shit, and have an awesome personality. You just have to be open to talking to people you wouldn't normally think to.

attractiveness is connected to the saying, Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. As for personality, I think thats the more major factor. You want a person you can like and enjy being around. Without a personality one could tolerate, the more attractive ones would get left behind.

@AMDarley and bookwatcher thx, I think you have opened a new window for me to look through and @Anthony, yes I meant good looking

It all comes down to this sometimes to most of the time, - Physical Attraction - Mental Attraction (Personality) You gotta have a good balance of both for someone to be interested in you. Of course each person is different and at times they prefer one more than the other. And they have their own little quirks and unique opinions for what they want in a person to date.

I wouldn't say you have to be "good looking". Physical attraction has so many various factors to it and so many variations that you'll be hard pressed to even find one person that everyone agrees is physically attractive. I think the most important things that attraction is based on is personality, presence, and what emotional connection you made with the other person. Being good looking helps, but it's rarely the factor that leads to a healthy long term relationship

I agree with xueli, I mean you can be the best looking guy or girl in the world, but if your "insides" (personality/ persona) is ugly then in terms....you're ugly. And someone who bases their attraction upon looks is considered shallow. What people need to understand is that just being good looking isn't good enough,I mean hell I seen, excuse my bluntness, but ugly people establish relationships with highly attractive people. So with that being said "be one with yourself young grasshopper" ^_^%

If someone who bases their attraction upon looks is considered shallow... then everyone is Shallow. We all look for physical attraction at one point. It's like I keep saying, Physical attraction comes first most of the time, personality completes the equation and determines if it's worth working for. Take that for what you will o_O.