About Me: A little back story is that we got married almost two years ago. I was in the Marine Corps and was injured in the line of duty. We pushed the marriage forward so she could come out and "help" take care of me. She took off from school and came out for a year while they processed my medical separation. I was so much in love with her and the engagement was great, but after we got married everything changed. While I went through physical therapy and all sorts of medical treatment, she moved out to the base to help. She didn't actually do anything besides watch tv, neglect household chores, and constantly bicker at me. I was going through a lot of pain and still do, but she did a complete 180 and was a burden more than anything. Our sex life became almost extinct and she became cold and spiteful. Before our marriage everything was great in the bedroom but it all came to a screeching halt. I became very unhappy but I put most of the blame on my injuries.
Once I was separated from the service we moved back home to get some help from my parents until I got back on my feet and found a job. She took this opportunity to go back to school. However she chose to go to a university in another state while I obtained employment. Transferring or trying to go to school close to where I found a job was asking way to much. Now I only see her once every couple of months. I do my best to work and provide for her, pay for her tuition, and keep her happy. She however loves to spend money and take up the entirety of my paychecks. I talked with her about trying to keep a budget and look for scholarships, but every time I do it turns into a huge fight that is always my fault.
On the rare chance we do get to see each other it is always stressful. Our sex life is non-existent even when we are able to spend time together. My in-laws also put tremendous stress on our marriage. I dread having to see them because each time I do they find new and exciting ways to financially drain me and add to my burden.
To sum it up, I am incredibly unhappy. She moved away from me and spends more money than we can afford regardless of my insistence on a budget. At almost two years she still refuses to go sign a couple papers to change her name. Our sex life is practically gone.
I feel like I do everything I can to make her happy and provide for her but she doesn't care. She is ruining me financially and all I get is cold and aggressive behavior. We do not have any kids. We had a dog at one point, but it was too stressful for her so she gave it away even though I did most of the work. I am just confused on what I should do. I have done everything I can think of to keep this relationship going, but nothing is enough.
Any advice would be great. I am tired of fighting and being the only one contributing to this relationship.
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Once I was separated from the service we moved back home to get some help from my parents until I got back on my feet and found a job. She took this opportunity to go back to school. However she chose to go to a university in another state while I obtained employment. Transferring or trying to go to school close to where I found a job was asking way to much. Now I only see her once every couple of months. I do my best to work and provide for her, pay for her tuition, and keep her happy. She however loves to spend money and take up the entirety of my paychecks. I talked with her about trying to keep a budget and look for scholarships, but every time I do it turns into a huge fight that is always my fault.
On the rare chance we do get to see each other it is always stressful. Our sex life is non-existent even when we are able to spend time together. My in-laws also put tremendous stress on our marriage. I dread having to see them because each time I do they find new and exciting ways to financially drain me and add to my burden.
To sum it up, I am incredibly unhappy. She moved away from me and spends more money than we can afford regardless of my insistence on a budget. At almost two years she still refuses to go sign a couple papers to change her name. Our sex life is practically gone.
I feel like I do everything I can to make her happy and provide for her but she doesn't care. She is ruining me financially and all I get is cold and aggressive behavior. We do not have any kids. We had a dog at one point, but it was too stressful for her so she gave it away even though I did most of the work. I am just confused on what I should do. I have done everything I can think of to keep this relationship going, but nothing is enough.
Any advice would be great. I am tired of fighting and being the only one contributing to this relationship.
(copy pasted from reddit)
