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What is wrong with my mindset?

zerostormai
So i tend to take things very fast, but maybe thats because i know what i want and go for it? is that a bad thing? i know most girls want to take it slow, but i know that i want to find one girl and settle down the reason i want to go faster is because ive always had tthe luck of choosing a girl and waiting forever before i told her how i feel and by then its too late. i know i want a girl who loves me for me, likes some of the stuff i do so we can talk about stuff, continues to fight for us when things go wrong, laughs at my terrible jokes and smiles genuinely. so tell me what do you think is wrong with my mindset ladies?
yaasshat
Not a lady, but I have some advice. You can not rush relationships, that's not how they work. Some relationships take months until the two get married, some years and others never get married and instead just live together as if they were married. There is no right or wrong way, only what works. I'd just say that it's best to let things go at a natural rate of progression, what ever that may be for your relationship or formation thereof. Also, the things you want in a woman (i know i want a girl who loves me for me, likes some of the stuff i do so we can talk about stuff, continues to fight for us when things go wrong, laughs at my terrible jokes and smiles genuinely.), you need to be willing to be and do the same, or more. As for confessing? Pull a Nike and just do it. Don't just say "I love you", start by casually dating until you feel things out and truly know if this is the person for you. Dating is a process of trial and error. You can't expect perfection or instant love. Nor can you expect that the initial emotional high will last indefinitely(Biologically speaking, it'll last for just over a year. We're built to breed after all.). Realise that a relationship takes time to cultivate and "love" takes a lifetime to grow.
zerostormai
i dont rush into relationships for marriage im reffering to rushing into dating.
yaasshat
Read all the way thru, I gave my opinion on that too.
chocopyro
Take it from me, I've been both places. I've rushed a relationship, only to find that halfway in, I was in too deep, and there was no real way to get out of it without leaving someone with scars. And I've taken my time, only to have someone move on before I even realized how much I liked her. If moving fast is your pace, there is nothing wrong with that, but it comes with its own drawbacks. Especially if you don't get in the habit of learning what her pace is. Ideally you need to find a steady beat that you both march at. And if you feel an emotional need to rush things, look for girls who are looking for the same thing, or have the same emotional needs. I've met plenty who have tried to rush things too fast for me, so I know they're out there. lol
wertingman
1. Life isn't an Anime 2.What chocopyro said, learn how to gauge her time scale.
poeticmysteryman
Honestly, it depends upon the person. Some ladies take things too fast as well. However, I recommend slowing down a little, for your own sake and theirs. Take some time to get to know your date before you get too serious. If your goal is to find the right person, you do not want to rush through relationships. Better to be single then to accidentally end up in a bad relationship.
poeticmysteryman
Also, while it is crucial that your respect you date and her feelings, it is also important to respect yourself. Don't let a gal or guy rush the relationship faster than you feel comfortable with either. If this occurs, be clear about your feelings and expectations.
notatsun
Youre limiting yourself, form a harem.
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