Can People Just Stop Being Creepy and Hostile

@[DERP] Charles Red - I think reporting these people is definitely a good idea and I certainly urge anyone to unfriend and block people who are like this as soon as things start getting uncomfortable.

You know, I really want to believe that it's just because this is advertised as a 'dating' site. But I dunno, I've noticed this type of behavior in other anime communities too that have absolutely nothing to do with dating. A female user is like blood in the water, thirsty dudes are going to be thirsty everywhere. They don't need context. Though I can see them feeling emboldened here because it's advertised as a 'dating' website

@Cheeto - It's an unfortunate vicious cycle that I would love to see break but sadly I don't think it'll happen any time soon. The best thing for the actually good members of this site to do is to make the newcomers feel welcome as much as possible. I wouldn't mind seeing a whole thread dedicated to that.

@Monsoon You can just call me Red or Charles Yea I agree, tho like I said before about it not solving everything right away, its still a step in the right direction

@Red - Will do my dude! And you're right, I'll admit I'm an idealist so it sucks knowing there's no foolproof permanent fix for this kind of problem and I don't think there ever will be. But I think making small steps in the right direction will be a big help to pretty much everyone on here. @Cheeto - Oh I never knew that, it could be worth bumping or starting a new one!

There are alot of steps to deal with these types of situations. Mainly to avoid drama. Obviously the first step is for the person being harassed to tell someone and then report it to a Mod or the Admin. I feel like you have to have some sort of proof, like a screenshot of the conversation. I am aware that screenshots can be manipulated, but I remember Daggerfella (Mod) mentioning before that they (Mods or Admin) can verify said conversation. The approach you don't want to take is to blast this person out in public (though me personally, I'd love to expose these people outright for their shitty behavior.) It's just a bit unprofessional. Looking out for Red Flags is also something people should keep in mind. And there are alot of them. Also a link to this thread: https://www.maiotaku.com/topics/38014

I agree, this site should be reworked as a social media site first, and dating site as a secondary component, especially considering you can be under 18 and have an account here, so you're bound to run into creepy old pervs into teenage girls or just weirdos who have no concept of boundaries. Either way, let's face it. There is a substantial amount of people in the anime fandom who for various reasons are socially retarded to put it bluntly. There is a reason I and probably many others keep our distance from users significantly younger than us unless they seek us out first. If this type of behavior is not heavily cracked down upon, then the quality of this site's user base will decline rather rapidly... There is a reason some of us take vacations away from here...