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Would you marry someone who had a vasectomy/tubal ligation?

ohnoes
Twice I had to weigh out whether or not it was worth the long haul when they didn't want childeren. I loved those women, but it always weighed heavy on my heart that they didn't want childeren thru any means. In the end, I'm very happy that I'm not with either of those women and am instead with my wife who is expecting in less than a month. I'd say for those who even have a thought that they might some day want children, do not stay with someone who doesn't, that will ALWAYS be a point of contention and even spite. But, if you do not EVER see yourself wanting children, be honest and upfront. It's sad when people don't discuss things like this BEFORE marriage, you should think seriously about this even before you get with someone. Things like this and even finances, need to be discussed/thought about well before marriage is even a real thought.
vezax
If i love her then i would still marry her, i like having kids but its not a compulsion..
ohnoes
Not to dissuade, but you might be surprised.
sadjester
Kids are a big responsibility. Really not ready to have children, so it wouldn't be a big factor for me.
leo_ss
John Felix- Now I don't mind you not wanting kids man, that's a personal choice for everyone. However the world is not already overpopulated, you could literally fit all of the planet in like just Texas alone. And the fact is, Western countries(Like the unite states.) are actually having declining birth rates, these countries aren't having enough kids. The ones that are overpopulating are the third world countries. Which makes sense considering that the more poor a country, or people are, the more kids they have due to child death. But they are the countries, that it would be best if they weren't, While western countries are the ones you want population, Since they are the ones that actually do care about pollution more than just survival. Now back on topic. I would not. While it is their right to have kids, It is MY right to have them. I want children, I want a wife that wants at least somewhat similar lives with, Which includes the munchkins. I would love my wife equally as much them, But that wife has to want it too. Now, if they were okay with having kids, and me having surrogate. Than I could still seeing it work out, But I'd prefer my wife be the biological mother of our kids.If they don't want kids at all, and aren't willing for to have a surrogate or have them herself, Than we just aren't going to work. Which is fine, we could still be friends. But Kids is a must, just like many other things are.
inter_change
Yes and I'd prefer it because that's more time and money to spend on ourselves. Andddd I don't want kids.
harvestfan
Yes I would. Because you'd love the person. Not just what they produce.
senpainoticemepls
As I still have pretty conservative feelings towards relationships and family for myself, I would not marry someone that didn't want kids unless there's the possibility of me adopting and raising a child on my own. And by possibility I mean that all the factors were favorable. (financial, time-wise, etc)
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