Any "Asexual" people here?

Sure in your own words what defines you as asexual

I've never considered myself asexual, however, it's very very rare that I will find myself only physically attracted to someone so much so that my body would react on it's own. (ie get physically turned on) I really need to have a sense of comfort with someone before I am able to have sex with them. I could never have a one night stand or anything like that as most guys I meet can. I have guy friends who are ready to go whenever and wherever and I am actually a bit jealous of that. I do, however enjoy orgasms and have no trouble watching pornography and pleasuring myself whenever I am in the mood which is why I can't consider myself to be truly asexual. Also, when I am comfortable with someone and I find them attractive, I am able and willing to have sex with them. Often when I tell other guys how I am they will say that I'm gay or odd or whatever else but *shrugs* I'm just different. My libido isn't as intense as other men. When I do feel comfortable with someone, I will rarely want to have sex more than 3 or so times a week (obviously there are exceptions as there are times we are more frisky than others) though, it doesn't affect my performance in the bedroom.. Anyways, I think it's extremely rare to be truly asexual whereas you have no real desire for any sexual contact. As a male, I don't think I have ever met anyone who even has as little desire for sex with another person as I do. Those are my thoughts on the subject..

Just to be clear, like I said, on the spectrum of asexual and sexual, I am in the middle but more closer to asexual. (graysexual) Let's start from the beginning. When I was around middle school, I had noticed I never had any sort of crushes. My friends all had crushes on a group of guys and they assigned me to have a crush. I didn't like nor cared much for him the same way that my friends at the time did. There was no one in my life who I ever felt like I had to be secretive about my feelings and I never did like anyone. Throughout high school, 1 in real life and 5 or so online (this still happens today), people started confessing their love to me a day to 5 days after meeting me. The guy who I met in real life, we kinda "went out" for almost two years but barely talked and when we would* meet (he live in Pasadena I believe in me in West Covina), we just made out and dry humped but I never enjoyed it. Idk if it was because he was bad at it, I didn't really like him, or I just didn't like that kind of thing. In high school, I was infatuated with a guy who kissed me on the cheek on my first day of at a new school. I really liked him. He was my best friend for a long time. When I did tell him I liked him, he felt the same way about me and ending up dating...until he cheated on me after two months. I think I felt like I loved him. I never said it, that is for sure. But the sexual activities were...idk. He was fine but no spark? During this time, I knew I was capable of loving someone romantically or platonically, but I felt like I wasn't like other people around me who totally wanted to make out with people, wanted to have sex with people, fantasize about real people, etc. So I really did find asexuality.org as a good resource for me. I still masturbate (never have experienced an orgasm) and watch hentai and read smut online and I even draw sexually explicit stuff. But that has nothing to do with my attraction of people. I can appreciate the aesthetics of things and people but I don't find people, in my own taste, for me to be sexually attracted to the same way other people do. I have a boyfriend, yes. But I find his attraction to be different. What makes me identify myself partly asexual is that I do not "experience sexual attraction," such as wanting to have sex with someone, fantasizing about someone, wanting to so anything sexual with anyone outside of my own relationship because I am attracted to my boyfriend because I love him. That may be confusing, but because I love him, that alone makes me attracted to him. Not the other way around. Some people notice someone because they are* attracted to them and then fall in love with them. That didn't happen with me and I don't think it could happen with me.

Oh yes, and I would like to add my attraction is the same for all people, regardless of gender or sex. I'm not bisexual at all because I am not sexually attracted to either genders.

So... Just wondering, who here has a PhD? It's like the people who over react on webmds diagnosis of cancer for all... I see opinions and I truly wonder how common this condition is. It would seem that over a quarter of those who talk on the forums here identify as such Either it's really common or people just want to "identify ". But, to each their own I suppose, you don't need to prove a thing to anyone here. These are just my opinions. It's just confusing to someone who can't look at getting aroused by porn as not wanting anything sexua, sounds like a contradictionis all. I ssuppose, aside from those who truly crave nothing sexual, not even an orgasms, I will not fully understand no matter how it's explained.

It isn't like people who are not straight have to have a PhD too figure out they are not. Do straight people have to consult with a doctor? Or they just know it? Maybe not the name but they are familiar with the feeling. It is nice to have an identify for some people because it feels like you can connect with a community. Again, sexuality is fluid and ever changing, that is why there are contradictions. Okay, if I am not asexual, I guess I am straight but I don't like sex and wouldn't mind being in a romantic relationship with people of any gender or sex. I guess it is just a mouthful but gets to the point better but still, people will think I am sick. Edit: I guess I feel that I need to prove that it is real because it is kind of saddening to think that I don't exist in someone eyes because they think my orientation is nonexistent.