Are you shallow?

@usagimodoki I prefer to use it that way, that and like or dislikes is a bit more vague in my opinion for the thread. @Robscene Agreed honestly, regardless of if you form groups or not to advocate treating people without shallowness its something that as people we are wired to do. Not just in relationships either it can be in any little thing we do. We just usually bring being shallow when it comes to relationships. So in the end any want to remove shallowness is going to require a rewrite of people in general. As for that last part would be rather hard to answer in my opinion. I mean in a pure human survival perspective, that is optimal to seek out genetic diversity and to your own genetic line. However as we know its not that simple putting that as the interest of humanity.

I have to throw my 2 cents in on this one... I agree with the fact everyone has some sorta shallowness in them and I also agree that you have to have at least some attraction to the other person before you would consider dating them but the thing I can't stand is when others judge someone solely on what they look like on the outside. People do that to me A LOT. I have chatted to some people days, hours or weeks and got along well, had tons in common and wanted to be friends with that person, only to have them block me for no reason and others have blocked me right after seeing my pic. I can honestly say I have never stopped talking to someone based on how they look. Just because they might not be super skinny or the hottest thing on earth does not mean you have to stop talking to them, even if they aren't someone you could see yourself dating then at the very least you could make a new friend, some of those people have hearts of gold. I just say give people a chance, you miss out on meeting great people if you only judge by how they look on the outside. Some people might see my pic and say I am ugly or whatever and others might say I am hot or sexy...I couldn't care less either way, if people don't want to get to know me for what is inside then they are not worth my time! Sorry for the post being so long but that is my opinion on the subject :)

Moonlightjazz, I agree with your post 100 percent. A persons's character should always take precedence over his/ hers physical appearance. Everyone is shallow to some extent when choosing someone to date, but with respect to only talking to them or not talking to them based on looks that would be extremely shallow and foolish.

TLDR xP everyone is shallow in some way, we all have some sort of image we want to project to people. i'll say that there have been times when i was stuck with some people that i was just straight turned off by(not sexual) and they ended up completely being different compared to what i thought they would be like, and i enjoyed them very much. your as shallow as your willing to be. if you do not want to get to know someone or something thats your decision. no one should tell you otherwise. BUT it is up to you to decided when you are tired of not liking or hating of "something(object, person, and self) and want to change. hey if that guy that you want to talk to you does not want to talk to you fine, thats his loss for not getting to know the great you better. if that girl just brushes you off and don't care to say hi back to you anymore, then scr#w dat skanky h0, there are better girls out there that would love to say hi back as you walk by. but remember that those other people are just as shallow as we are as well. we choose what we have to do to change that in ourselves. don't change for any "one", change for yourself since you have to live with you for the rest of your life. if that change also affect other people then go with the flow as long as you fell fulfilled...

Tough little question. I guess that I am guilty of being somewhat shallow depending on the situation. On some matters such as morality, I tend to be more thoughtful and consious of my choices. However in friendships and sentimental relationships with people,I tend to be a bit more judgemetal. As much as we deny it we tend to make assumptions of people we meet for the first. There is no background on then,so we resort to appearance to make a judgment. Certain traits may reflect some part of the personality. As we get exposed to a certain person, we start creating a more fair profile. I myself have turned away some people based on looks, however after being exposed to them, I have developed fondness. An acquired taste. Unfortunately, out in the real world especially in business people will be judgmental of anyone and shallow. Clients and employers just want to see you work, not get to know you. As shallow and supercial as it sound, First impressions DO count...a lot.

Here is my understanding of shallow and why I think I am now Yes I was converted to being shallow... So I have my preferences everyone does, that's not being shallow. I think it's when you make a strong choice to follow those preferences as a personal law. like (I will never get with someone ugly ever no matter what personality they have) My ex was a lil thick but not fat. She was tall making her heavy and when she would wear loose clothes it didn't help. :/ But she was kinda cute...kinda. Anyways, Despite my preferences, what attracted me to her was her personality. I told myself I'm not shallow so I'll ask her out. To my surprise she ended up being almost perfect in everything. Cooked, worked, laundry,liked anime, played games, and at night O_o... well wont give details ;). Everything was there except feelings. I couldn't fall in love with her. I told her this and when I would try to break it off she would always convince me saying "is there anything wrong with our relationship" ..."no not really" So after over 2yrs together no fights I still couldn't figure out why I wasn't head over heels for her. Until I started having thoughts of cheating on her. Strong physical attraction to other girls that I knew one day I might if this kept up. I am no cheater so I broke up with her. She knew I didn't love her but still wanted an explanation. Who doesn't? I couldn't give it to her...I couldn't find any reason why I couldn't love her except looks and I wasn't going to tell her that. To add salt to the wound later when I told my friends n family. No lie EVERY single person gave me this(Oh Thank Gawd) expression. Some said "Well I just couldn't SEE you guys being together". Others added "You could have done better, I just didn't want to say anything"<--- That made me mad cause that ment that they most likely had whispers behind my back about me and what the girl I was with looked like. So now to escape criticism from my family n friends and to give a better chance of me falling in love, when I'm looking for someone, I completely pass on ugly or chubby girls. Don't get me wrong if they talk to me I will still be polite and give them a time of day. They deserve at least that much cause, you never know she could be the perfect women on the inside :). But I pretty sure I am now considered shallow -_- Alil off topic but I just wanted to add what my ex ex said cause she was at one point considered "alil extra" she said "What's wrong with being Fat and not wanting to work out or eating healthy?" There a miss in that statement and I want everyone to know about this misconception... There is NOTHING wrong with being fat or having extra weight. From my experience heavier ppl are much nicer, bigger hearts, and fun to be around. The truth of it is that people are attracted to healthy people. If you could care less eat pizza, burgers, and tacos on a daily basis, if you had some weight issues but refused to do anything about it. Don't call someone shallow for not being interested in you. There is a diff between being fat and being unhealthy. This thought ensued when my ex ex asked that famous question "Would you leave me if I was fat?" I was Honest and said "If you became fat maybe". She got mad and said "What's wrong with being fat?"...*Sigh* I should have said *If you WERE fat no but if you became fat maybe* None the less we had a big fight over the diff of being fat and loving someone with extra pounds. -_- Sorry so long xP ...Here at the end I will put the short answers Yes, I am shallow. And Yes, I think being shallow is bad but I think for certain things we can't help it and as long as you still treat those you wouldn't be with as person. Having respect, then it can be ok...I think..