Sex while dating?

Sepheroth understands and is using the words I'd use had I no brain injury. And Ikkoku: How can you understand better when sex doesn't help you get to know that person better? And I am aware of said gift of curiousity. I may have a TBI, but that doesn't mean I'm stupid. And no, it's a gunuine question, and I'm just discussing my views. Since when is stating an opinion arguing? You may not be trying to be mean, but it's certainly coming out that way. If you weren't labeling me, then what were you doing? Sure seems over here that you were placing me a nice, pretty labeled drawer.

<b>Phanari:</b> It might benefit you to take an adult sex education class to understand my point about better understanding someone. The whole act of sex educates you on "general life-skills". I'm not making this up. Go to this site: <b><i>http://www.avert.org/sex-education.htm</i></b> and look under <b>What skills should sex education develop?</b>. I'm not calling you dumb or anything like that, just not informed. Please just forget the whole "label" thing. You are blowing this WAY out of proportion. So, you are one of those people who hates the whole "label" thing, I get that. I shall never "label" you again. I'm sorry, I'm a jerk... okay?

Whether or not a class teaches it doesn't mean it's true, my friend. If that were so, I'd never know what irony really meant because I had two teachers tell me two compeltely different things and ended up getting in trouble when I corrected the incorrect one....-.- lame. But that asside.....Once again you're wrong, I don't hate the whole label thing, I just think there's a time and a place for everything. You're not a jerk, you just don't understand that people are all different. It's not really a fault.

It's too personal a subject to go COMPLETELY into why, but I'll explain part of why. Parts of why I don't think it's ok is because there's always a risk of pregnancy or disease unless you just stay away from sex all together, it's wrong to not save yourself for your spouse....and the list goes on. So aside from being all-around wrong to do, it's also dangerous.

I'm one of those people that views sex as biological, not emotional. It's a reproductive act, that's it. To think sex is a symbol of love and whatnot is naive. The only thing you can really do is dig through all the muck to find someone who shares your ideals about relationships, otherwise you'll be wasting your time.

I don't see sex as a symbol of exactly.....I see it more as a Gift that we should only use in the confines of marriage. And I know there are people out there who feel this way, otherwise we wouldn't have populated churches, right?

I think this post started out really well until Ikkoku and you had that confrontation but before that you had a great point. And I believe Sephiroth was hitting on it too. Now back to a female's opinion again... I am in complete agreement with Leanne and also when you say why not just get married if you already feel that way? There are those idiots out there who think they’re in love and just rush into marriage usually because they come from a rigid religious family just to have sex and then realize they weren’t meant to be together. As far as diseases go its not rude to just go with your partner to the doctor’s and get them checked out, actually it’s the smart thing to do nowadays! I know its hard to hear but bad bedroom chemistry can be detrimental to a relationship if a couple can’t work it out...

Only partially agreeing with the guys’ opinion and fully with Leanne if you can trust and feel that you love the person you’re with you shouldn’t have to wait for a piece of paper that says you’re going to spend the rest of your life with them. In truth it may not work out some of the best romances in history end and they find new loves. So having sex with a previous love of your life shouldn’t ruin the next one you have but life is full of experiences and with each you learn more. And find what you’re looking for in the long run. But I would be more open minded that just because others don’t share the same virtues and views as you doesn’t mean they’re wrong you just live your life the way you want and others will do what they feel is right for them. You sound like a romantic, just remember to have others prove themselves to you before you fully give yourself to them. :-)

I guess I'll never get it then. Secular society seems to always over throw principals and convictions....::sigh:: not to mention values and self-respect.