Sunbae

go spam ur great wall wid Ringo unicorn chan sama den since ur both Chiese XD XD but Ringos MO wall is mineeeeee >_<

trumps not makng a canaada- US wall !! XD XD ths ths for xplaing dem, but those u dnt knw maybe Ringo knws so ill ask her XD

I find it really funny how you say you cannot empathize with people, but you still try so hard to work at it. When I said "prepare for waterworks", I meant MINE, not yours, haha! You don't have to stress yourself if you really can't empathize. Just be who you are -- no one that matters is going to judge you for it. The love problem with your friend that we talked about showed me how hard you actually want to empathize even though it takes a toll on you. Just think of it as learning a new skill: Baby steps! Don't wear yourself out, but continue practicing whenever you can. If it still doesn't work, move on. There are other skills to learn! Plus, you're still SUPER young. You have a whole lot of life experiences waiting for you -- if you're going to be open to them. https://67.media.tumblr.com/021d76de1e34a0d0286af0ec14246a30/tumblr_n0935bthii1qbvovho1_500.gif If you meet more people different from you, empathy would come easier, I believe. So long as it's not the serious medical condition kind, then in that case, see a doctor if it starts really bothering you and the people around you, perhaps? Have you tried volunteering? Like having to actually meet and spend time with the people you are volunteering for, and not the soup kitchen or bake sale kind? Most of my friends actually think like you with regard to their privilege: Just let people deal with it and judge you for it. People would always get jealous with what they don't have, they said. I guess I'm different because I was never comfortable with it. I even developed a weird habit of being unreasonably apologetic for my privileges, even those that I earned through hard work! It drives the people around me crazy. It drives me crazy! They said I would be more chill if I just stop feeling guilty and start owning it -- being born into a certain life, looking a certain way, achieving certain things. What's weird, however, is I actually like being and feeling the way I do. It motivates me to do something and speak up about injustices that I see (and there is no shortage of those where I'm from, believe me). Or maybe, just like with everyone, I am my worst critic for no apparent reason. >_< No one was really hateful or belittling to me about my privilege like you mentioned, so to speak, and I never experienced bullying or teasing. The Filipino culture in general is not cool with embarrassing others in public (or maybe that's just the "culture" I was brought up in). But there are subtle jabs every so often (and they're the ones that stick), like when being asked to sign up for student protests at university. Everyone in the group would be asked except me with a joke saying, "Oh, you won't know how this feels anyway, why bother?" I never understood why they think I can't sympathize with my fellow students who are fighting for more subsidized education fees. It affects me, too. You know, I always thought the math and Asian stereotype was nothing to take offense over. I actually consider it a compliment because it means we are known all over the world for being good at something, collectively! But I understand how some people would get uncomfortable with it. I'm pretty good at math and with numbers and formulas in general. What I don't understand is why people assume it's a racial fluke and that math is really hard by default. It's not! You just have to put in a little bit of effort to appreciate and understand it, much like with everything else. I no longer have a problem telling my professor story to anyone here. I already put it out there in the forums and Erica even unearthed long after it was buried, that weirdo! And I learned way before that if there's one thing people should never judge each other for, it's their love or sexual experiences. That's not to say I'm not interested in knowing people's stories, if they are willing to share, haha! So yes, I want to know yours! My friends love talking about this while playing mahjong. We are really our mothers now! http://i.imgur.com/QcqQxdV.gif And I completely agree with you: Erica is the purest thing to ever happen to MO, haha! She just dives in head first in everything! I have zero qualms about trusting her and I see her as a friend I would want to have for long time, too. Maybe in some parallel universe, we really DID end up together! :D P.S. Let's exchange PMs instead. Erica is the only one who actually doesn't listen when I say I don't like wall spams and gets away with it, haha!