but the bubbly personality won't work for me i think more of a serious person and a cynical humor would work for me
only because thats my opposite and opposite attract :)
Bubbly and overly optimistic doesn't work for me. I knOw that for sure. Chris is right. Unless you're exposed to the right type personality you won't know exactly. H as anyone here ever figured out what their personality type for a spouse is?
If i have to use the person who attracts me the most as an example, i'm attracted to awkward, clumsy, low-confidence people who are also funny and a bit silly. Who have a nice voice to listen to, a look that is easy on the eye (doesn't equal pretty) and an ability to have super deep emotional connections. I think her optimimistic attitude is one of her downsides though, but i can read well enough to see when she means it or not, so it doesnt particularly bother me, but in most people it would bother me. She's bubbly at first glance, but theres a whole lot more than meets the eye. It's actually not her bubblyness but her clumsyness that was my first impression of her. Clumsy equals adorable.
Taking my general attraction: i tend to be attracted to someone who has something different about them, but that can be anything. Most of times i tend to be attracted to the person who is not the prettiest of them all, but just 'has something'. The same for personality, i don't seek perfection, but they need to 'have something'. Something that intrigues me.
I also tend to be attracted to a more depressive type of people who are still capable of humour. Also i'm sort of searching for someone who has enough resemblance to myself to click, but not enough to mirror me.
Now defenining that into a specific type of person is difficult. The recurring patterns seem to be 'not generic', 'open-minded' and 'emotional'.
Buuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut. I'm not a guy. Who knows what guy slike? The one thing i know is that they're generally avoiding 'difficult personalities' like me and avoid clingy people. For some reason many guys claim to love clingy but when confronted with clingy it's the first thing they blame the other for. Upon closer inspection, guys tend to avoid responsability towards others, altough on the surface it will only look like they 'have enough trouble already'.
Guys generally avoid challenges (especially the arrogant/asshole type, actually) and avoid emotional dependency. Personally i wonder why they even want a girlfriend if they avoid everything a girlfriend can offer, so i suppose it's trauma, fucked up ideologies or bad influence from their social circle. They somehow got this idea in their head that vulnerability only leads to trouble. Also men seem to avoid 'bubbly grown ups', calling them immature.
Different strokes for different folks. Some guys like the gloomier girls while some like the crazy ones. I like bubbly mostly because I feel a positive attitude and personality can really rub off on other people and make them feel good. I can be a right ol' grumpy git sometimes but when you're talking to happy and cheery people, it can really turn that frown upside down!
I think it's because guys can be really rude, always beating on each other and throwing insults around. This can wear some guys out, so the look for a contrast to what they usually have to deal with.
I like people who see the humor in things, but are low energy and complacent. Honesty above all else is the most important. I'm not looking for a go getter or sociable, mostly just someone who has a normal amount of self respect, and respect for others (especially me).
I think when I see someone as a potential partner or not, I look at their lifestyle more than anything.
This can go both ways.
Hmmm sums up life.
Bubbly personalities are usually the center of attention and usually have an on and off switch as well
For me,. at work i use to have all eyes on me being a medical sales rep. and i changed or turned the switch on to hold that attention. To have all eyes on me, and to identify their need and have them trust me to provide a solution
But , in a more social setting the switch dose not work and i am the shy boy sitting in the corner of the dance floor sipping his drink. I thought Things changed when its personal for me not business.
But many of the friends that were girls, were the exact opposite, they wanted to be noticed socially, so their personalities erupt when in a social setting, sometimes unconsciously wanting to be the center of attention. Out on the dance floor for the world to see
Honestly, who dose not want to be noticed.
Maybe that is why i am sitting in the corner all alone.
Some boys or girls want the center of attention and their personalities come to life or are "bubbly"
I am waiting for the girl to share my drink with.