When you need to pour your heart out do people listen?

When someone actually pours their hearts out to you? Do you listen? what's your reaction even if it something you don't want to hear?, Do you hear their concern about you? for you? what you do that you don't realize you do, hurts them? I have been their when I was younger, I didn't want to listen. Now that I am older Now, I know how it feels for those who you care about not want to listen to you or TELL you that you are dumb or you hurt my feelings type of deal? like have you ever tried to pour your heart out and than feel like it being slapped in your face? Then question why you are with that person? Then to break up start over again to find someone who can capture your heart but to hurt you again? like I like to hear what most of you do? Sorry this is a random convo I have nothing else to talk about so i guess i figured to start this one here.

Giving a loved one criticisms is going to be rough for both individuals no matter what your age bracket is. The only thing you can do is address your problems openly and honestly and hope that the other person wants to fix the problems with you. If they aren't willing, the relationship will corrupt and will potentially fall apart. People have different breaking points, a different level of what they are willing to put up with or tolerate in a relationship.

That's what I am talking about basically communication. Yeah need to let each other know how you feel, that includes with family members even though the other doesn't like what you have to say. Either if you don't like what they have to say. Someone got to try to fix the problem if not then why even bother with that partner and to have history repeat it self over and over. it be time for a long break if you ask me. Sadly this world don't give a crap any more about communication which is needed for any relationship. You do have a valuable point though. What you said is very true indeed.

I usually read them, rather than listen to them, then depending on the circumstances I'll just throw memes at them until they ease up a little. Really depends on a lot of circumstances... It's not the same when someone is publicly venting their frustrations as to when someone is directly asking me for advice. It also depends on the type of issue and quality of individual

Sounds like you're stating this in a situation where it's between lovers. If so, then I would agree that it's important to be open to receiving said feelings between each other. You're suppose to be soulmates, so if you can't be open and caring to each other to that extent, then you got no soul or you're a demon *Deeeemon Slaaaaayaaaar* ... lol... But if you meant in general, or between friends, family members or just stranger or co-workers/acquaintances, then it kind of depends on how close you are to that person you are opening up to, or who is opening up to you. If it's a stranger, it'd be hard to relate to them and connect.

So, in response to your second paragraph I've had that happen quite a bit actually. Here's an example of one of those occurrences, so I was in the process of getting to know someone and they asked me if I wanted to vent since my friend was dying, and I did. So I told her about what was going on and instead of listening and being compassionate she decided to accuse me of being in love with my friend because I was texting her on an occasion to keep her company. Because in my mind keeping a friend company in what could be their last moments is the least I could do. However, this person thought otherwise and went ballistic on me about it, and this wasn't the first time she went off on me over stuff that shouldn't of been a big deal. And keep in mind me and this person were just talking not even dating yet and we didn't even meet yet, so it was a pretty big red flag. It was a pretty wild experience however I learned something from that encounter, it's that I don't really need people like that in my life. Especially since I personally would of been there for them if their friend or someone they knew was on deaths door. That's how I try to maneuver through relationships, if they're constantly doing things like that or just being rude and uncaring then I just can't get down with that. Especially since I would have been there for them because that's just who I am. So, if I find red flags like that then I just accept they aren't the one and move on. It sucks but I also like to view it like this, how shitter would it of been if I put more valuable resources into this relationship such as more time and potentially money and then found out later. It's always better to find out earlier than later in my opinion.

*pats Detroit* what an awful attitude. Sounds like she was trying to come off caring but got jealous when you talked about another female. For me most people ignore, pretend not to notice, or get nasty towards me when I talk about my life and feeling in it when it's very emotional. When it comes to listening, as long as I'm not in an exhausted state I listen. How I react to it depends on what is told to me. I don't blow up at them but some problems I can't respond to cuz idk how too.