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What do you think about never getting married?

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xingthecrow

Eliot. 25. Skip this paragraph if you don't really care. Dated three girls in my lifetime. I've always been serious about the people I've been with thinking I'd get married and have kids every time. Never really worked out the way I pictured. Since then I've gone (as the Japanese call it) hikikomori; never really leaving my home except to go to work. It's kind of become comfortable being a shut-in. After a few failed relationships where I was more emotionally invested than I should have been, I started thinking "If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't then well... I guess that's fine too."

I guess I'm wondering if you've either thought of never getting married/settling down or feel like you're in a position where you don't see that possibility. I'm highly curious on everyone's thoughts.

Dec 07, 17 at 4:39am
littlenoobito

I think getting married is overrated. Just think about it, its a contract that is pointless. Does marriage stop people from cheating? Nope. Does it improve relationship or makes it better? Nope. More than 50% of married couples divorce. Whats the point of it? If you like someone and you want to be with them, nothing is stopping you from doing that. You don't need a contract for that. Life is better when you stop doing what society expects you to do. Just live your life, the way you want to live it.

Dec 07, 17 at 5:25am
dragonflykite

I'm at odds tbh about marriage and finding a special someone to be my forever love. I'm 29 years old and I feel like I'm almost to the point of no return for wanting to get married cause it doesn't sound as good as it once was.In the last year I've told myself right now I could care less about marrying someone one day and settling down cause my life is so underachieved and I feel as though I don't deserve anyone cause they are so much further along with their lives than I am. Right now I'm not living for the future but living in the moment and I think when I'm ready to look again I will and if it leads to marriage eventually then that'd be great but we all need to keep our heads up high believing that things will improve and we will get our chances more than once no matter how difficult things are in the moment. Marriage is never too late till the day we die but settling down with kids is a limited time frame that I understand weighs on the minds of many people in their 20's to their 30's who want a family....

Dec 07, 17 at 6:04am
lilithotaku
<3

Nope. Ain't gonna happen.

Dec 07, 17 at 6:39am
houndofdoom
<3

Hell no fucking no

Dec 07, 17 at 7:09am
hakutaku

Probably the best decision we can make when we are young~Once you kick marriage and kids out, you may find there are more possibilities in life~Marriage is never too late~
Moreover, the responsibilities we have to shoulder are decreased because of this decision~
I'm selfish, I don't want to get marriage mainly because I don't hope the quality of my life is lowered, I also don't want to be exploited and to be deprived of the right of being "immature".

Dec 07, 17 at 1:47pm
sadjester
<3

Don't think I'll ever be in a happy relationship. XD
So no, I'll probably never marry, which is kinda sad.

Dec 07, 17 at 1:58pm
ennis93
<3

Marriage seems very, very overrated xD
I'd be happy with 1000 cats, lotsa plants, wine and good friends :3
THOUGH I'm not against it either :))

Dec 07, 17 at 2:03pm
densetsu_no_baka

Personally, I think marriage is nothing but a piece of paper. If two people love each other, they can be happy together forever with or without it (probably more so without imo). That said, I'm not unwilling to marry, and I'd love to someday have someone special that I love enough to even be willing to consider it.

Dec 07, 17 at 2:36pm
vanessa86
Supporter
<3

Marriage is a must. Someone who is against it imo has no confidence. Though i understand that lot of people don't have confidence, i don't understand how you can be with someone whos refusing to bind themselves to you. It's not about a contract or benefits. It's about the message you give your partner. Not marrying is 'assuming it will go wrong', which is asking for an unstable relationship full of insecurities. How can you trust someone who doesnt even want to consider to marry you?

Marriage is very very underrated.

Dec 07, 17 at 4:14pm
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