How to deal with bigoted evangelical parent

>her ability to have contact with any grandchildren she may or may not have Gonna point out that grandparents don't have any implicit right to have contact with grandchildren. That's up to the discretion of the parents. And while I have loving and wonderful grandparents, not everyone has that luxury, and they can be abusive. My step mother's grandmother is a textbook example of a shitty grandmother - glad she's fucking dead as she was evil. Regardless, your point about CPS was irrelevant. >Emotional abuse is real, but it should definitely not be claimed so lightly. Then I rest that portion of my case as you clarified your position. >So it absolutely infuriates me to see it happen. I don't see any evidence of this even through textual analysis. I see a 1990's kid who grew up with things like gay marriage, atheism, and transgender people being commonplace in society - his parents didn't and try as he might, they're never going to be fully accepting of it. That's right. You heard me. They won't be fully accepting of it. My friend who came out gay to his parents born in the 1950s - exact same way, and while they're cool with it now, I can see a level of disappointment from them that their only son is gay, and they begrudgingly accept him and his husband because of their moral obligation as parents. If he doesn't want a relationship with his parents, that's his own damn business. Who are we to judge. Again, he did not ask for what you came in and said. So why say it? Because you feel compelled to out some personal sense of justice? One thing you should learn, which you obviously haven't, is we're unfit to pass judgment on him. We should not judge him. Buddhism says this, Christianity says this, Atheists say this, Satanists say this... you get the picture.

And he could have just as simply left out all the insults towards his family while asking for advice. Yes, I do judge based on words and actions. In hopes that it's recognized and if they don't want to be judged that way, work towards growing out of it. Towards being better, even if it's out of frustration. If there's one thing I vehemently believe, it's that people can change, but only if they really want to. That's where my harsh honesty comes from. That's all I have left to say on the matter.

Lol you guys seriously think you are the only ones that have it hard? That are experiencing situations like this? That people like me aren't able to understand how shitty it is to have such lack of parent support? I'm pretty sure we are telling this man here all these 'insulting' stuff because we've been there. Pretty much saying that how is he planning to solve the situation if he doesn't even try? He's said that he can't go out then why not actually talk with his parents? In these cases all you need is communication and while I agree they won't right away accept who he is, they will with time because mine did. Unless, they actually don't and then he can get out of it using any means he has because I am sure that the economy at his place makes it hard to emerge but it's still accessible unlike other places. So don't come at me with the whole 'mean' excuse because that's the only way you can act towards someone that's acting like this. May I add, we may have been a bit harsh, however, he has to accept that he's not doing it or at least thinking it the right way. Regardless of this all, he should try, they are his parents for the love of everything pure, they gave him their all so why not try to strenghten their relationships instead of insulting them online? I have lived this through and if you are not willing to solve it, to me, is worse than running away. Just saying.

>Lol you guys seriously think you are the only ones that have it hard? No. >That people like me aren't able to understand how shitty it is to have such lack of parent support? Never insinuated you did. My criticisms have been specifically towards Gudmoore's responses. >Pretty much saying that how is he planning to solve the situation if he doesn't even try? He's said that he can't go out then why not actually talk with his parents? Because after a few people telling him that, you'd think he'd heard it enough to consider it. He knows his situation better than any of us. When someone comes to me, in my personal life, first thing I do is usually offer them a strong drink to calm them down. Then, I let them talk. I offer friendly sympathy, and I usually tell them its up to them to decide, and that if they want to cut their parents off, try to make it work, or whatever, that's their choice.

@No.44: If you're trying to refer to me. You have no idea who the fuck I am or what kind of life I led. And I have no obligation to prove the hardships I went through. My life turned me into the man I am today, I use bullshit I went through for fuel rather than labeling myself a victim. That's only one of the problems with you entitled little fucks, you think you know everything. Newsflash, you don't know shit about the world. The entire world isn't a Liberal Arts college campus. You fail to see that there is ALWAYS someone who has it worse than you do. Instead, you act like your life is the only one that sucks. Selfishness and a massive ego problem. If you could open your eyes even slightly you'll see that you don't even have it the least bit bad compared to so many others. Count your fucking blessings that the only thing that's being hurt is your feelings, and grow the fuck up.