Questions for gay/bi peoples

I just talked to my mum about the topic in general. Asked her what she thought and stuff. She wasn't exactly ecstatic about homosexual couples. Over time, I just brought up the topic more and more, letting her talk about why she disliked the idea, and then replying with why I didn't mind. Through this discussion slowly being introduced over time, my mum became more and more relaxed about the idea. If I ever get a girlfriend, I think it might take a little getting used to, but I'm not that worried, because I know my mum understands now. Because we've talked about it so many times.

I actually came out to my mum three times I think, once was over a year ago when I told her I was pansexual and then again half a year ago it came up again and she was like ''wait you're not straight?'' and I told her again. A few days ago though we talked about it more and about other stuff too and I told her that I actually think I'm either asexual or demisexual and panromantic and she never had a problem with it. She's very open minded. And I don't make it a big deal either. I don't out myself to everyone I meet only when it comes up in a conversation. I don't know if you already came out but I would try just sitting down with your mum or family and explaining to them and telling them about your experiences or feelings. I guess it can be hard if your family isn't supportive but if any of my friends wouldn't be supportive or grossed out I'd probably ditch 'em.

Update on this: still haven't told a soul. It's all good though it's not something burning in my chest that I need to get out. I've actually become less enthusiastic about the idea of taking a walk on that side. Thank you for all your comments and suggestions ^^

It really depends on the types of people you tell, I don't want to discourage being open and honest about things with family members but I do want to advise you on the situation I had to face. when telling my aunt about it, she was able to be mature and offer me her input on the situation, I chose a time when we both weren't busy and I asked her if we could have a mature conversation, she agree'd and we both sat down and talked over it for a long time, the BEST way to bring it up I've found is "I think I might be _____ and this is why." Now, on the other hand... I told my mom when I was a teenager, she ridiculed me and became a school bully persona over that bit of information. Then she told the rest of the family in a not as mature fashion, my uncle who used to be close with me started treating me differently and wouldn't hug me anymore or anything, and a lot of family members started to just be uncomfortable around me ... so... be very careful who and how you tell, make sure you are speaking to someone you can trust. Again, I'm not trying to scare you! but I thought before the incident I could trust my mom... just want to make sure you will be okay :) and if you ever need support there are tones of people all over online to help you out! and probably some locals in your community too! I hope this helped

Well, one advice I can give is food. Always make sure everyone is well fed before you confess. Take your friends or family out to pizza. Dine in, if its an option. This also works if like me, you were usually one of the first straight guys to be told, always take your friend out to pizza afterwards. The reason I suggest pizza is that its something in the center of the table that everyone partakes from. A bucket of fried chicken will do just fine too, Doesn't matter as long as it falls into those established parameters. The reason for this is subconscious. Its a show of solidarity. A sign of trust. And most importantly, people are generally much more agreeable AFTER they have had something to eat. I learned this trick from an attendee when I was working security at Ohayocon. We had this one hobo who cropping up in places. And that was fine, we would give him little bit of time, cycle around patrol again, and wake him up. At least we tolerated him, until he started panhandling the attendees for cigarettes and phone chargers, so he could recharge his smart phone. (Yeah, the guy's bumming cigs and sleeping on stairways, and for whatever reason he has a much nicer phone than I do). Eventually, I just got tired of the complaints, went out to buy something filling, and hunted him down through his usual rotation. (Each time he was asked to leave, he would just go to a different location.) I found him, stopped him before he could run, gave him the food, and told him "You can't go anywhere until you finish this meal." And wouldn't you know it, for the rest of the con, we never saw him sleeping in odd places, never heard any panhandling complaints, or anything like that again. From that point on, anytime I started carrying snacks around for the crankiest people I had to help, and it made my job much easier. Oh gawd, that sounds just like a snickers commercial, doesn't it? I hope everything goes well for you, Crim. Even if you decide to steer away from opening up.