Grudges

It depends, I tend to stew over some situations, like the way I left my job in Japan. I still think about that and let it get to me. I guess if people wrong me or treat me badly I stew over it, but I don't actively look for ways to get back at them. I'm more the put-up shut-up type. I guess I stew over how I should have handled things and what I should have said.

Who doesn't hold a grudge and I'm no exception I've been wronged and hurt by a lot people including members of my own family, my grandparents on my father's side hate my guts. All because I made one little choice in life. That choice was too take care of my mother cause she had two bloodclots on her lungs and she lives with permanent damage on her lungs and in my grandparents messed up minds I was rejecting their son aka my father. I know I've gotten off track of this forum, what I was trying to get at was I hold grudges in a bad way I have a hard time letting go and I'm trying to fix that but its hard.

I don't really hold grudges, but I do remember things that happened in the past. For example, if someone betrayed me, although I might forgive them for doing so, I'd still remember that it happened and be a little more wary of them.

Wow, I've comeback from the dead to all these great comments. I appreciate it fellas. Good to know that grudges don't always prevail. Everyone takes things on a different note when it comes to grudges and we can only ask why. Reminders could be triggers but given time, They later become dull and meaningless depending on certain circumstances.

I can hold a grudge but after a while I won't be as mad but I won't forget what the person did and will just avoid them.

Nothing good comes out of holding on the grudges. The simple fact is life/people etc. screws you over. Its better to try and move on, have new experiences and replace bad memories with new ones.

I do hold onto grudges. But I don't let it affect how I treat someone. Even if it's someone I hate that comes up to me and says: "Oh hey! How are you?" I'll probably respond normally. If someone has enough courage to apologize to me for something they did. I forgive and forget. I don't even care past that point because that's all I needed to hear.