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why is change so awkward even when it shouldn't be?

supernovagirl08
like the post says why is change so awkward even when it shouldn't be?lately everyone iv know over the years is growing up and having babies and starting a family including on of my best friends/ex boyfriend. im truly happy from him and his gf/future wife but everything is really awkward now i feel like...im being left behind by well everyone not just him... I love my life and im glad for my choices of going for my animation dream and really giving it everything i got but looking around at everyone else i feel a bit like im floundering and not doing something right....does any one else feel this way or know a better way to look at things?
fullmetalrussia
I feel the exact same way. All my friends are getting married and starting a family. It doesnt help that I moved to another state and dont know anybody. So im completely alone. Sometimes I feel like I cant really talk to them because their priorities have changed. They dont watch anime and play video games like they used to and that's all I really do besides work...
kitsunekouta
Sometimes it's just a good idea to make new friends. As a kid I moved around a bit and so was forced to leave friends behind at times. Then I got into high school and things got a little more stable, but after a few years some of the friends I made there changed, essentially into completely different people, and so I stopped talking or hanging out with them. We had lost most of our common ground, and of course they didn't come find me so I knew they weren't close anymore. I find that it can be more stressful to try and keep old friends if you aren't really close. A lifelong friend or a best friend is one thing, but otherwise you'd probably be much happier with new friends with more in common with you. It's just awkward if you've got little to no common ground. I've got old friends that I'm still on good terms with, but we rarely if ever hang out or talk. Even if we did, there's not much to talk about really. Time constraints are an issue with some friendships. Sometimes people get busy and don't have time to hang out or talk with more than a couple friends or family on a regular basis. They can still be your friends, but it's nice to have other friends to spend your time with when they aren't around. In the end, it's not that you're making bad decisions or that you're wrong. You're just living the life you want to live and they are living theirs. Sometimes people end up in different walks of life as they get older, and that's normal. You can keep them as friends, just as I do, but it may be best for your happiness to make new friends too that can be there for you in the life you live now. I don't think there's a rule against having multiple groups of friends. If so, I've broken that one a few times >.>
fullmetalrussia
You are so right. Unfortunately, I have a hard time making friends..
vampire_neko
I've had to remake new friends every few years because the old ones stop being social for various reasons or just get married and have kids. It's awkward as I get older because my interests haven't really changed much from when I was 20 but everyone else changes so much. And my interests and music and fashion are rarely shared by anyone near my age group. Anime for example, you don't see many people over 30 and most are under 25. It's even harder to find someone to date. My most recent ex is turning 23 and she helped get me more into anime by taking me to conventions but she's already losing interest in anime. Sometimes I feel like an immortal vampire watching everyone change and get old around while I stay the same.
buji
Out of all my friends I've had, I've only really kept 3.5. 1 I talk to everyday online, since he lives in another state, 2 are married to each other but I see them pretty often, and the .5 I like, never see, but when we meet up we usually have a good time, despite us being complete opposites. The other ones, I'll see every now and then, but it's awkward since I have no idea what to talk to them about, or it'll just be like a short "update" convo and then we'll be on our ways. It happens to everyone, it's awkward because everyone chooses different paths, probably also why you're here on this site to meet people on the same path as you (the 2D one) Yeah you may feel like you're being left behind, but that's life. Don't feel bad about it, you'll always meet new people
metaljester
Change is awkward for many reasons although it really depends on the person. Lets be honest change is uncharted territory for most and most of us prefer to stay in that line we call our little bubble. Change takes that bubble away and gives us the unknown which most people naturally dislike in certain forms. Relationship wise change can do the same. I will edit this post and go in detail later when I am off work. Also buji glad to be your friend^^.
myrhev
I haven't really kept any of my friends. Most were because of distance. Some I lost due to marriage and children. The odd thing is that, like many of you, my interests don't change a lot. I still love games, books, anime, and other "geeky" stuff. For many of my friends it only lasted into their late 20's. Now here I am at 38 and it is difficult to find someone near my age with the same interests. Luckily I don't mind dating younger, but at some point I'm going to be the pervy old guy from many anime flicks. Edit: Even on here there are way too many people that aren't even a legal dating age. Plus, I wonder how many of the people here will "grow out of" anime once they hit their 30's.
buji
I doubt I'll grow out of anime
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