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nekokai
It seems to be difficult enough to try and say hello to someone via internet, so in reality its damn near impossible. That's just my experience. I'm curious to know how you might go about approaching someone, now not just for the sake of a relationship but friends in general. I've tried the whole formulatic approach of smiling and saying hello to someone I might want to befriend, but it never works, or when someone talks to me I do try to respond to them but as soon as I do they seem to regret or be uninterested in speaking to me. How do you go about meeting new people? Does it work?
vampire_neko
I have a much easier time meeting people online than in person. That is also because I'm no longer in school or in a social situation with mostly single people my age and I'm not into the bar scene and almost nobody is interested in the same thing as me and if they are they are usually jailbait.
missallyesterday
I meet people out in the open but with school and work I have absolutely no life! So I've been online a lot. I approach people easily just about anywhere. If the guy catches my eye I just start with "Hello!" And go from there. It works well.
vampire_neko
It's easier for a girl to meet guys even if the guys that flirt aren't what she is looking for. I'm shy so I usually wait for a more assertive girl. The last girl that caught my eye was a girl with dyed hair and wearing a tail at the library. (If she put on some ears she would be at home at a furries convention.) But I couldn't think of anything but to compliment her on her tail but it was too late to say anything by the time I thought about it and I wasn't wearing anything interesting enough at the time to catch her eye and haven't seen her since.
nerovega
nekokai it certainly helps if you are in a situation that puts you in social environments. Like high school or college or even work. If you don't have any of these in your life then it'd be completely understandable that it'd be difficult to approach people you'd like to befriend. Society today has become a place that welcomes an introvert life style. Half the time its impossible to get another persons attention in public cause they're too busy glued to their phone 24/7. In retrospect it all starts with one glace. Anyone you have some kind of interest in try to make eye contact with them. Once you get eye contact give them a smile and if they return a smile or a wave or some expression of some kind then you should just go up to them and start talking. If the person you're trying to make eye contact with stares forward consistently or always looks down at the ground etc etc, this means they aren't in the mood to make any sort of social interaction. nekokai i really hope you can overcome this difficulty your having, you seem like a very interesting person than anyone would want to get to know! Be confident and approach people knowing you're great!
yuusaku_godai
"Hey, nice shoes. Wanna phuck?" works pretty good for me. J/King. Just being yourself and don't pretend to be someone you're not works pretty well.
jikokun
1. Go to a convention 2. Find someone you are interested in 3. Go up to them and compliment them. 4. Go to rave/bar/both. 5. ??? 6. Profit.
amrodcalanor
Talk about anything lol, its not that hard. Then online everyone is either a troll or friendly so its a 50/50 chance you'll have to take. Sent a friend request if you want to talk message me. Good Luck :D
roukuro
May 08, 14 at 12:55pm
I use my looks. I developed them specifically for this purpose (I have a personality too don't worry). I usually get approached first. If not I seek out the girl looking at me all shyly or smiling at me or I say hi to people who look like they have similar interests. It's pretty depressing how much looks actually matter. People of all genders naturally gravitate to you platonic or romantic. Most of its subconscious behavior too. I've seen both sides of the spectrum, having been an ugly duckling. Its really jarring looking at the contrast in how you're treated. But I still wouldn't trade it for anything. I know this will sound vain to a lot of people, especially since everybody who's ever been shunned for their looks has been taught its what inside that counts and people should accept you for who you are.
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